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Some narcissists CAN NOT STAND to see you HAPPY! · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on, beautiful people.
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  Today we're going to be talking about how narcissists cannot
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  stand it. Hate it when you are happy.
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  Why? Why is that?
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  If you're new here, my name is Lee Hammock.
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  I'm a clinically diagnosed narcissist.
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  And welcome to another episode of The Narcissist Code.
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  Boom. Welcome back, welcome back,
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  welcome back, folks. Yes, yes, yes.
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  Hate. Y'all hate it with a damn near a
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  raw, seething passion. There are a lot of narcissists
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  that cannot stand to see you with a smile on your face.
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  Yeah, I'm telling you they hate it.
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  It's not funny, but I know how how I'll be talking and stuff
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  like that, but yes, they hate it y'all and I know people going to
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  ask like totally. Why is that like why can't they
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  be just be happy for us? Like what makes them so damn
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  angry at the fact that we're happy about something like that?
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  We have something to celebrate in our lives like what the hell
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  is going on with this person? You know this person who's
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  supposed to love us, this person who's supposed to care about us,
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  this supposed this person that is supposed to be there for us
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  and you know see eye to eye and this that and the third like why
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  the hell is this like is it like this?
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  Well, the first thing is that narcissistic people are jealous
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  of you. Is that a shocker to anybody?
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  Like, yeah, unmatched unhinged jealousy.
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  It is crazy how it works. Like unmatched, unhinged
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  jealousy. They cannot stand to see you
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  with a smile on your face because they don't have a smile
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  on their face. Like even when they do have a
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  smile on their face, they always, even when they do have a
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  smile on their face, they always always, always, always are
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  comparing and contrasting to other people.
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  Like it's damn near like a narcissist happiness.
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  It's based on how other people are doing.
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  Like their happiness is based on what they are feeling.
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  It's based on what other people are going through and what other
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  people are experiencing. Like my happiness, I can't just
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  be happy for me. I have to be happy.
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  Why you are sad? I I have to be happy.
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  Why? I'm doing better than you.
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  I have to be happy. It can't look.
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  I can't be doing equal as you. We can't be doing equal.
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  We can't get the same promotion because I'm not happy when I get
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  the same promotion. I need to be above you.
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  I need to get promoted first. If if we are going through the
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  same thing and trying to experience the same type of
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  happiness and whatnot, then I need to be promoted first.
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  I need to get this happiness first.
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  If we're doing the same job field, if we're in the same, we
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  both content creators or something like that.
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  We both hit a million on this. We both hit a million followers,
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  1,000,000 Subs and whatnot. I need to hit that first.
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  You know what I mean? I need it first, I want it now.
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  It works that way. Like narcissistic people's minds
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  can really, really be messed up. You know, this is not me trying
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  to just rag on mental health and mental illnesses and things of
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  that nature, but it happens. Like do you know how like even
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  dig into my own mind? Because do I still feel this way
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  sometimes? Yes.
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  Y'all, it's it's still hard for me to maintain happiness over an
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  extended period of time. So do I still feel this wasting
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  time when people around me are just smiling and happy and I'm
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  depressed about something? I'm just, I can't be happy.
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  So why do you get to be happy? So in that mindset right there,
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  if I feel like I can't be happy, then guess what happens?
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  I get angry as hell. And I thought taking it out on
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  other people like I can't be happy.
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  So why do you get to be happy? I can't stand seeing you happy.
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  So I need to make you sad. I need to belittle your success.
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  I need to devalue your success. I need to strip away the layers
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  of your happiness. I need to do that not only for
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  me, but for you as well, you know?
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  No, no, no. Not for you, but for me.
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  I need to do that for myself. Because in order for some
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  narcissist to be happy, they can't see you happy unless it's
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  something that they've done now. They can see you happy when it's
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  something that they themselves have done.
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  And you better be happy. Yeah, if a narcissist does
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  something to make you happy, then you better be the happiest
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  damn camper in the world. You better be.
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  And I'm sure you better be the the happiest, happiest camper.
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  Just all around you better be. And this is me being real.
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  Like if you show me a, a, a little tiny piece of
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  unhappiness, I think you, you know, I think you make me feel
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  bad about myself. So for the narcissist that can
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  see you happy, it's they see you happy for something that they
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  have done. It's crazy how it works, y'all.
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  And you again, you better be the happiest damn camper out there.
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  You better be, you absolutely better be the happiest damn
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  camper out here or I'm going to be pissed off.
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  I'm going to be pissed off. That's the mindset.
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  That's the inner workers of a narcissist mind right there.
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  Y'all like you want to get deep. You want to get deep into the
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  mind of a narcissist. There it is for you right there.
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  I don't want to see you happy. It's crazy unless it's something
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  that's coming from me. So if you like, even if the
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  happiness, think about this right here, y'all even the
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  happiness, even the happiness that benefits them.
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  Like you just got a promotion at work, right?
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  And that's going to benefit the household.
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  They still don't want to see that because now you, you take a
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  step up. Now you make them feel smaller
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  about themselves. Yeah, it it, it's crazy how they
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  hate your happiness. It's like, you know, a
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  narcissist who is your lover or your parent can't also
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  simultaneously be your biggest enemy, your biggest, Yeah, your
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  biggest hater. And that's typically, that's
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  typically the role narcissists fall into.
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  Darses are haters. Like that's another reason why
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  they can't stand and see you happy.
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  They're just internally hateful. They're just internally just
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  unhappy people. They are haters.
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  They are haters. Very rarely on this planet do
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  you see a hater doing better than you.
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  You said somebody that's hating on you is doing better than you.
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  And what I mean by doing better than you, they could be making
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  more money than you, but they're internally their internal
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  internal disarray. The inside of them is a mess,
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  right? You see these mega rich people
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  out here battling on certain websites for people who don't
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  have it. They just internally or in
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  disarray, they're bored and they just get mad as hell because
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  other people are happy. I'm so bored.
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  I suffer from chronic boredom. Why do you get to be happy?
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  Your happiness irritates me. Your happiness irks my soul.
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  So now I have to bring you down a notch.
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  Now I have to try to hurt your feelings.
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  Now I have to try to break your heart.
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  This is the type of stuff that they start to do y'all.
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  It really is. This is the thing.
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  These are the things that they will try to do to you to make
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  themselves feel better. They can't stand your happiness
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  because it makes them feel bad about themselves.
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  Like seriously, I want y'all like I want the reason I make
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  these videos. So many people ask me why I want
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  why I make these videos. This is this is a sidebar
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  because I want to see y'all win y'all.
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  I can't stand to see a narcissist happy.
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  Did it hurt people? You wait.
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  That's one of my things. Like you also believe that you
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  feel this way. Yes.
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  I cannot stand to see a narcissist out here.
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  That is, you know they can't. I can't stand to see a
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  narcissist out here that is happy for hurting people.
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  I can't stand this. You see what I'm saying?
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  I can't stand their happiness. I can't stand their happiness
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  for pulling other people down, for devaluing people, for making
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  people feel worth less. You see, I can't see that.
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  So that's my way of you see what I'm saying?
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  I'm pulling away from them. You see how it still works in my
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  mind? I'm pulling away from them.
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  He's like, no, you don't get me happy for hurting people.
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  That person that your partner just got a just had a, a child
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  that they didn't. Your partner just had a child
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  that they didn't think that they could have.
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  And you're not happy for them. Your brother, your sister,
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  whoever it is, you're not happy that they had a child and all
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  the tensions is on them. Oh, we're so proud of you.
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  We didn't like we know you didn't know you were having
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  trouble getting pregnant for so long.
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  We're so proud of you. And you're smiling right there
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  in the bed, sweating, hair messed up.
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  You just gave birth and they're just sitting over there just
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  steaming. You could do it.
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  Yo, they, they, they they're so steaming hot in the corner of
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  the, of the hospital room. You just gave birth that the,
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  the, the room temperature has risen two or three degrees.
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  Yeah, the doctor, the doctors and the nurses and they're like,
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  yo-yo, look is, is it, is it hot in here to yo, whoo, this little
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  steamy in here? They look in the corner.
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  You, your narcissistic partner over there are just mad as hell.
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  They're like, please can you step outside a little bit?
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  You raising the temperature in here?
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  You making everybody else uncomfortable and guess who get
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  who? Guess who that gets taken out on
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  you. You get taken out on you later.
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  You just gave birth. They are they are the biggest
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  haters. You go on, you go into
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  experience. Again, this could be your own
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  parent and that sucks right here.
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  I know it's tough when it's your partner, but it was your damn
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  parent. It's even tougher.
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  You just saying, if I I get it when it's your partner, it's
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  tough. It's extremely tough.
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  I'm not, I'm not trying to diminish anybody's struggle, but
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  when it's your parent and you're getting raised by this person
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  and they, your parent is your biggest hater, that's
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  destructive from birth. That's destruction from youth,
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  that's hating from birth. Like y'all, they were your
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  biggest hater when you took your first breath.
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  They became your biggest hater. Like you just, yeah, you just
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  opened, you just came through the birth canal, right?
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  You just open your eyes. They just, you know, the little,
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  the little suckers, they, they just suck the amniotic fluid out
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  of you know, you look, your, your, your narcissistic part,
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  your, your biggest narcissistic hater who could be the person
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  who just birthed you. It's just angry as hell.
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  Just looking at you like look at you getting all the attention,
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  you damn baby. Look at you, your biggest hater.
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  They might have given birth to you.
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  That's crazy, Al, and that's why I'm just trying to raise
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  people's awareness like all narcissists are not going to be
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  your partners. They could be your parent.
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  Your partner could be just a normal, healthy, healthy minded
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  human being. Your parent could be the
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  narcissist. Your parent could have
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  emotionally or physically abused you growing up.
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  You know, it's just in this space right here.
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  I hope you. I want y'all to win.
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  That's all I want. Yeah.
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  I really want y'all to win. I want to see y'all happy
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  because if y'all get happy, I get happy.
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  I get my I, I delve my happiness, my if my, even if my
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  happiness is only temporary sometimes I get it from helping
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  so many people win. The thousands of people that I
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  helped doing one on ones and coaching the people that are in
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  my group right now, we have our zoom calls and they're talking
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  about their wins every week in my my support Group, One of the
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  first things we do is share wins.
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  Anybody got a win? You want a shirt shirt a wins
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  and it makes me happy. I like look at the wins and it
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  makes other people it shows other people that you can win as
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  well when one person is showing their wins and two people are
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  showing their wins, you know, even small wins.
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  Hey, guys, I got out of bed today.
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  I've been in the bed for three days crying.
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  I got out of bed today when guys I left the house today when guys
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  I blocked in the day when guys I I got to smile today and nobody,
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  you know I got to, I got to laugh out loud for the first
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  time today and nobody told me, asked me to, just told me.
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  I have a horrible laugh, but I laugh too loud when I want y'all
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  to win, win, win no matter what. Got money on my mind.
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  I can never get enough. I appreciate every single one of
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  y'all though. Like I say, check out my courses
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  in my support group and whatnot. I hope y'all.
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  I just want y'all to win. Y'all seriously follow my other
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  I'm out. Peace.
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  Thank you so much for making it to the end of my video.
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