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Dirty Little Secret: A Mom Is Scared To Admit One Thing About Her Kids · Billy The Kidd In The Morning

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  Speaker 1: This is dirty little secret.
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  Speaker 2: I'm mixed one or two point nine. Good morning, it's Monday.
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  Speaker 2: It's bail of a Kid, Candaelow.
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  Speaker 3: Pats producer poo. Whatever your secret is, whatever your confession is,
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  Speaker 3: just get it off your chest. You feel better about it.
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  Speaker 3: Eight three three seven eight seven one o two nine.
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  Speaker 3: No matter what's going on, you confess to us what's happening.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I just I can't tell anyone about this, and
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  Speaker 4: I'm just just really kind of ashamed. I'm pretty sure
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  Speaker 4: I'm about to have a nervous breakdown. Oh no, why, Well,
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  Speaker 4: I just hate summer because of my kids.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, you hate summer?
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  Speaker 4: I hate it. Yes, I have. I have two preschoolers.
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  Speaker 5: Okay, I love them, I love them more than anything.
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  Speaker 5: But I just I just don't know how much longer
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  Speaker 5: I can yest. I mean they are together twenty four
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  Speaker 5: to seven, which means they're also fighting twenty fourth to seven,
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  Speaker 5: Like one is.
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  Speaker 4: Crying or the other is crying, or they're both crying
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  Speaker 4: and somebody needs something all the time, and it's just
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  Speaker 4: they're making a mess. Does not stop.
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  Speaker 6: So do you have do you have anybody to help you?
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  Speaker 6: Or is this something you're doing?
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  Speaker 1: Alone.
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  Speaker 4: Well, I mean, my husband worked all day and we
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  Speaker 4: don't have any family nearby, so I can't ask Grandma
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  Speaker 4: to take the kids or anything. So it's all on me.
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  Speaker 4: And you know, my husband works real hard, like I said,
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  Speaker 4: but we're still struggling to make ends meet, so we
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  Speaker 4: can't hire a babysitter or get a nanny or anything
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  Speaker 4: like that.
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  Speaker 6: And it's just.
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  Speaker 4: It's all on me.
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  Speaker 1: Right, you are not alone, that's for sure.
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  Speaker 4: I just I know I probably sound ungrateful, but I'm
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  Speaker 4: just I'm so exhausted in I can't even explain how
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  Speaker 4: exhausted I am. There's no me left, do you know
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  Speaker 4: what I mean?
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  Speaker 1: Right, Yeah, so many moms feel that way?
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  Speaker 2: Is it this time of the year.
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  Speaker 6: And I know, Kennis, it's something about summer that just
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  Speaker 6: springs out. I mean, you're right, because certain moms you
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  Speaker 6: don't get a break, no, and you have.
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  Speaker 1: To entertain twenty four to seven and during the summer,
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  Speaker 1: you know, you're just counting down the weeks. And it
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  Speaker 1: sucks because some are supposed to be carefree and you
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  Speaker 1: know everything is relaxed, but it's so stressful. I get it.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean, the only piece I get is when
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  Speaker 4: my husband comes home, and he'll usually put the kids
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  Speaker 4: to bed, and I tell them I'm going to go
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  Speaker 4: take a shower, and honestly, I just sit on the
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  Speaker 4: bathroom floor and cry for about an hour. I don't
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  Speaker 4: even turn on the water half the time. I just
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  Speaker 4: need some place to go without somebody yelling mom or
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  Speaker 4: pulling my shirt or asking for a snack or fighting
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  Speaker 4: or anything like that.
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  Speaker 2: You know, I get that, But let.
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  Speaker 6: Me ask you this, like why do you feel like
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  Speaker 6: you have to keep this a secret and you can't
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  Speaker 6: tell anybody? I mean, like, what's going through your head?
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  Speaker 6: Where this is? I know, I get why it.
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  Speaker 1: Moms are at the breaking point absolutely late July.
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  Speaker 6: Do you feel bad about feeling this way? Are you
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  Speaker 6: nervous about it?
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  Speaker 4: It makes me feel like I'm a bad mom? You know?
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  Speaker 4: I just and I just need to know. Am I alone?
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  Speaker 3: Like?
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  Speaker 4: Do other moms feel this way?
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  Speaker 1: Oh? Yeah, you're longer.
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  Speaker 4: I don't know how much younger I can keep it
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  Speaker 4: together like and pretend I'm okay. I just I need
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  Speaker 4: a break and I need school to start, and I
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  Speaker 4: just I feelful just even saying that out loud.
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  Speaker 1: Do you know, No, it's hard that do you know
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  Speaker 1: what that tells me you're a good mom, you know,
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  Speaker 1: because it's the moms that don't don't take it this
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  Speaker 1: far and don't come to this breaking point sometimes because
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  Speaker 1: they don't care enough. You know, they'll be selfish and
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  Speaker 1: make time for themselves when they really shouldn't. But you know,
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  Speaker 1: this is a real tough time of year, trust me. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: not for to stay at home moms, working moms too, right.
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  Speaker 2: And a lot of time.
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  Speaker 6: No, I mean everybody has their struggles, for sure, but
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  Speaker 6: moms I do feel like, Yeah, I feel like moms
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  Speaker 6: you just you wear you wear it differently and it's
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  Speaker 6: heavier because there are just I feel, naturally more responsibilities
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  Speaker 6: when it comes to being a mom.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, we're naturally just softer.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 6: And I'm not saying the dads aren't important obviously, it's
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  Speaker 6: just different.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, it's just.
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  Speaker 1: Like all the time, it's hard to because time you
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  Speaker 1: tell someone or you go online and everything says this
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  Speaker 1: phase won't last forever. Eventually you know, they won't want
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  Speaker 1: you or need you, or they'll be you know, more independent,
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  Speaker 1: and you'll be sad about it. But it's so hard,
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  Speaker 1: it's it's hard to even process that yeah.
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  Speaker 6: You help.
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  Speaker 4: When people say that it does not help, it's like, okay,
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  Speaker 4: but I'm struggling right now.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, do you talk to your husband about it?
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  Speaker 4: Well, I'm kind of scared to tell him because I
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  Speaker 4: don't know how he'll react. You know, It's like, he
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  Speaker 4: goes to work all day and he's a great provider,
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  Speaker 4: but it's just I know, he has struggles of his own,
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  Speaker 4: and I get that because you know, work is stressful,
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  Speaker 4: and then he comes home and he puts the kids
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  Speaker 4: to bed, and it's it's amazing what he does.
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  Speaker 6: But well, sometimes you know, react, Sometimes you hear people,
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  Speaker 6: like you know, with stay at home moms, they're like, well,
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  Speaker 6: I mean, at least you get to stay home.
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  Speaker 2: A man will say that, but it's like, yeah, I'm staying.
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  Speaker 1: Home, but but you get to check out of the
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  Speaker 1: responsibilities of the home.
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  Speaker 2: Sometimes it's easier to go to work.
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  Speaker 4: Right, you know, so you can go to the bathroom
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  Speaker 4: by yourself.
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  Speaker 2: Right exactly. Yeah, it's just it's much different.
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  Speaker 6: Well, I mean, listen, I wish I could give you
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  Speaker 6: a hug, and I feel like you got this, and
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  Speaker 6: like Candace said, it does show that you're a good mom,
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  Speaker 6: that you care this much that you're you're that committed
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  Speaker 6: to your kids. And trust me, we have moms that
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  Speaker 6: call up that aren't that committed.
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  Speaker 1: No, that's for sure.
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  Speaker 6: We get off the phone and we're like, whoa, that
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  Speaker 6: was kind of weird. So you know, you can hear
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  Speaker 6: your love for your kids and you'll get through it.
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  Speaker 6: Like you said, it's a it's a tough patch.
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  Speaker 1: Right, Yeah, toddlers too. You're in the trenches for a
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  Speaker 1: while and eventually you'll come out of the other side.
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  Speaker 1: You'll just have different stresses, you know. But I get it.
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  Speaker 1: I get it.
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  Speaker 6: If maybe I could have somebody call up if there's
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  Speaker 6: you know, I know we have the best listeners, so
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  Speaker 6: they call up sometimes those suggestions advice and possible like
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  Speaker 6: groups you could talk to or join. So if they do,
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  Speaker 6: I'll get your info and we can we get forward
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  Speaker 6: it to you.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, that would be amazing. That would you don't even
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  Speaker 4: know how maybe that would be Thank you so much. This,
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  Speaker 4: you don't even know how much just this has helped