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When Resistance Turns Into Revelation (S5) S18:E5 WEDNESDAY · Inspirations for Your Life

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We have an incredible master topic for the
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So master topic is when direction changes because
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truth gets revealed.
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When direction changes because truth gets revealed.
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Think about that for a moment.
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So welcome back everyone to Inspirations for Your
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Life.
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I am John C.
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Morley, serial entrepreneur, engineer, marketing specialist, video producer,
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podcast host, coach, keynote speaker, graduate student, lifelong
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learner, and yes, passionate, of course, learner, but
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an author.
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Yes, I'm so grateful to be an author
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now.
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And this week we're talking all about something
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that changes everything.
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Direction does not change randomly, guys.
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Direction changes when truth shows up and what
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you believed no longer works.
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And I think that's a hard thing for
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a lot of people to pay attention to.
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Oh, by the way, guys, if you're thirsty,
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I have my RO with my fresh lemon
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here.
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Water.
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Feel free to go get yourself something, whether
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it's water, whether it's soda, a snack, healthy
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or not, that's up to you.
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So ladies and gentlemen, most people think they
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are stuck, but in reality, they are resisting
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what is trying to reveal itself through.
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Yeah.
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So when resistance turns into revelation, we have
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miracles.
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A lot of you are like, oh, I
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don't know if I want to do that.
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I'm not ready because they're waiting for that
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perfect moment.
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They're waiting for that perfect time.
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The perfect moment, the perfect time never shows
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up.
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So they get disappointed.
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Number one, guys, resistance signals growth and shows
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where expansion is happening.
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I think that's a hard thing for a
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lot of people to acknowledge, but it is,
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I'm going to tell you the truth, guys,
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absolutely, absolutely is the truth.
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And I think a lot of people like,
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I just think a lot of people don't
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want to do that.
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I don't want to say they don't want
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to know the truth, but they don't necessarily
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want to go there.
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And I say go there because I mean,
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they're a little scared of what's happening.
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And I know that sounds like something that's
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a little bit crazy, but I want to
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tell you it's the truth, guys.
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It is the truth.
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And so if we understand that it's the
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truth, we know that's our way of life.
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Number two, discomfort creates awareness and forces you
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to see what you ignored.
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Now I didn't say pain.
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I said discomfort, all right?
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Discomfort creates an awareness.
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And I think that's a very important thing
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that a lot of people, for whatever reason,
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they just don't want to, they don't want
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to acknowledge it, okay?
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And I think that's hard for a lot
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of people.
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Number three, conflict reveals truth that comfort keeps
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hidden.
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So when we're comfortable, as you know, and
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people just don't want to move, they don't
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want to do anything, right?
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Because they'd rather stay nice and toasty warm
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or nice and chill and cold if it's
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summertime, because, well, they don't like temperature changes,
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right?
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They don't want to be uncomfortable.
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We said this before, guys.
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They don't want to become uncomfortable.
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And being uncomfortable, again, it's not painful, but
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it is a little bit hard to bear
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sometimes.
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Number four, guys, pressure creates awareness that cannot
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be avoided.
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And this is a good kind of pressure,
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guys.
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This is not a bad kind of pressure.
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It is absolutely a good kind of pressure.
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And it's a pressure, I think, that a
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lot of people want to know about, but
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for whatever reason, they just kind of get
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lost.
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And it's a good kind of loss, guys.
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It's a loss where it's like you're between,
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which way do I go?
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Do I go this way or do I
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go that way?
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And I think when a lot of people
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hear that thought, they say to myself, oh,
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my gosh, this is like incredible, right?
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But then for whatever reason, they just like,
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they feel that there's no way out, right?
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And so that's a problem for a lot
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of people.
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They feel that they're going, well, down a
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one-way street.
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Ladies and gentlemen, struggle leads to insight through
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real experience.
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And so when we have lessons, when we
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have insights, that's the moment when things become
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alive.
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That's the moment when challenge gets absorbed and
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we learn.
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Number six, guys, opposition strengthens understanding over time.
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I didn't say immediately.
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I said over time.
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And so over time is something that a
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lot of people, for whatever reason, they just
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don't get that.
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And I want to tell you that you
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can get it if you become aware of
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things.
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Number seven, breakdown leads to breakthrough when patterns
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shift.
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So when a pattern shifts, it's like something
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changes, right?
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A change happens for us that should be
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one way, but for whatever reason, it's another
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way.
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And I think that's a very hard thing
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for somebody, people to acknowledge or to notice
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is that they don't necessarily want the change.
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Number eight, guys, confusion forces reflection and deeper
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thinking.
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Again, the thinking is not what's painful, okay?
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The thinking is what gets us to hopefully
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take a step.
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Number nine, challenge exposes weakness that needs correction,
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all right?
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And so when we think about that, a
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lot of you are like, oh, I really
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don't want to go through this.
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I don't want to deal with this right
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now.
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But the truth of the matter is, guys,
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you can deal with this.
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You can do this, okay?
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I think that's the most important thing that
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I can tell you.
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I think sometimes people get stuck in their
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own way.
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They get in their own way is what
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happens.
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And when they're in their own way, it's
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like, oh my gosh, what am I supposed
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to do?
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Number 10, guys, tension drives change by removing
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comfort.
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So when we remove comfort, change happens.
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But does it happen the way we want
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it?
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Sometimes change happens slowly, and sometimes change happens,
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well, ever so quickly, maybe quicker than we're
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ready, right?
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And I think that's the biggest fear of
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a lot of people is that they're going
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to get this big shift, but they're not
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really ready for the big shift.
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I think that's a big question that a
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lot of people sometimes, I'm going to say,
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get stuck under.
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And they get stuck under this because of
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one reason.
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You know what the reason is?
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The reason is they're in their own way.
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They're in their own way, and their own
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way causes them to, well, be stagnant, to
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not grow.
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And I think that's a big problem for
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a lot of people, whether you're starting out,
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whether you've been around for a while.
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Things that are not comfortable, people tend to
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avoid.
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Number 11, guys, friction reveals direction through resistance.
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That's one that a lot of people want
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to stay away from.
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And I will tell you why.
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It's because they're like, well, what if this
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happens?
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What if that happens?
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What if none of this happens?
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What if what you fear doesn't happen?
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And what if something else incredibly great happens?
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Number 12, guys, obstacles refine thinking and sharpen
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decisions.
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So when we get an obstacle in our
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path, we can say, you know what?
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This is making sense to me.
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This is something I'm now in alignment with.
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Number 13, guys, resistance shapes identity through adaptation.
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So think of it like being a chameleon,
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right?
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When we can blend into an environment, we
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can change.
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We can change.
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And that change is something that a lot
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of people, they just don't seem to get.
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And they don't get it because of one
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reason.
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And I'll tell you what that reason is.
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The reason is that they want to go
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one way.
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And they're only open to going one way.
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They don't want to go another way.
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And now that you're going this way, it's
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like, oh my gosh, how do I turn
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around?
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What do I do now?
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And it's not the time to get scared,
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guys.
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It's not that.
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It's about something else, OK?
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It's about something else.
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And that something else hopefully will get you
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to have, I'm going to call it an
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epiphany moment, all right?
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But epiphany moments don't happen every day.
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Number 14, that little bit of pain or
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that discomfort creates an awareness that demands an
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attention.
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And when we start noticing that demand, when
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we start getting that attention, it's like, well,
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wait a minute.
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Things are different for me now.
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I didn't know that that was a possibility.
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I didn't know that.
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I didn't know that what I was doing
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was actually educating me.
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I had no idea that that was doing
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that for me.
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Number 15, guys, truth emerges under stress when
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pressure builds.
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So when there's stress, people show their true
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colors.
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They don't hide anything.
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Stress isn't good.
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But you get to know the person.
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Maybe they don't really get excited when they're
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stressed.
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But you get to know the truth about
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the person when they are stressed.
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Because that's when their true colors come shining
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through, right?
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Remember that song?
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And I think that's an important moment that
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a lot of us miss.
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Number 16, guys, growth requires struggle to create
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strength, to create strength.
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And I think the harder that we think
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about this, the more that we talk about,
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the more that sometimes it becomes so difficult
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just to be able to understand, all right?
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And so if we thought for just a
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moment what life could be like if we
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weren't so stressful, if we leaned into our
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hunches, if we did that.
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But the question is, can we do that
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in a way that keeps us kind?
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Can we do that?
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So growth requires struggle to create strength.
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It does not outpour overnight, guys.
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It does not outpour overnight.
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And I think that's a key thing that
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a lot of people just don't understand.
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And I want to tell you that if
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you understand this one thing, just this one
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thing, you could shift your entire personality.
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Growth requires struggle to create strength.
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And just thinking about that for a moment,
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I think can really cause a big epiphany,
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one that will get you to see your
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true insights, one that will get you to
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understand that, yes, struggle is going to teach
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you the lesson, the lesson that you've been
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waiting your entire life for.
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And when we learn to become aware of
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these things, guys, life changes for us.
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Life changes for us.
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And that's when things become interesting.
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They become interesting because we now have the
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insights.
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We now have, I'll call it the data.
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We now have learned from that experience that
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has kept us in the dark all this
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time.
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But the first time you go through, it's
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not going to be like, oh, this is
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so simple.
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This is so easy.
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It's going to be complicated.
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It's going to sometimes make you want to
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quit.
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And I said this before, the difference between
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a successful person and those that are not
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successful is a successful person just learns to
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hang on a little bit longer.
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That's the only difference between a successful person
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and a non-successful person.
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That's the only difference, guys.
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That is the only difference.
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If you could understand that one thing, that
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one thing, your life would be different.
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But many people don't learn that one thing.
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They basically get lost.
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And that's something, again, that a lot of
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people, I feel, just don't understand.
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They don't know what it means.
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And again, it's not to say that what
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you're doing is wrong.
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It's to say that there is potential, that
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there is growth.
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That's what it's about, guys.
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It's about that whole concept.
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And with that concept, we can then grow,
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and we can then learn.
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We can then grow, and we can then
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learn.
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Number 17, guys, difficulty develops clarity through persistence.
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Those that are persistent succeed.
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Not everything in your life is going to
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be easy.
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In fact, the things that are hard or
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challenging are going to teach you lessons that
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maybe you didn't know about.
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Maybe they're going to teach you lessons.
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And those lessons could be the difference between
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you being a success and you being like,
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well, I want to be a success, but
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I'm not sure how to be a success.
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And I think that's a very important thing
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for us to all realize.
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If you knew what it took to be
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a success, and somebody gave you the formula,
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would you do what it takes?
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Or would you just complain and say, oh,
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I don't want to do that?
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I mean, I'm hoping that's not the way
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you'd be, but you could be.
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Number 18, resistance is information.
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It's not failure.
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Think of it as data, just like data
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for a computer.
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It is information.
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That's all it is.
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It is information.
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And that information, guys, is, well, it's the
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key.
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And that's a big key, guys.
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It's a very big key.
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A key that says, this is where I
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want to go.
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A key that says, I know what I
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want in life.
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I know exactly what I want in life.
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And if I know exactly what I want
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in life, I'm going to get it.
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But I might need to do some work.
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I might need to figure out some things.
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And you know, guys, that's completely OK to
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go figure out stuff.
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Because nobody knows all the answers right away.
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Nobody knows all these answers.
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And so if nobody knows all these answers,
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then maybe you can say, wait a minute,
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this actually makes sense.
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This actually makes sense.
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And now I can do something that is
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going to make a difference in my life
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and other people's lives.
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Number 19, guys, awareness follows conflict.
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When truth is revealed, that pattern is going
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to show up.
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Whether you understand it or you don't understand
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it, I think it's important to acknowledge that
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that is going to show up.
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And if we know that that's going to
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show up, then I would tell you that
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you're going to learn a lot.
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You're going to learn why everyone else gave
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up.
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OK?
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You're going to learn that.
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But it might not happen right away.
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And on that pathway, you might get very,
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very, how can I say?
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You might get very disappointed, very disappointed.
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And that disappointment may cause you to change
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your direction, to change your direction.
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And I know a lot of you are
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saying to me, hey, John, this isn't going
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where I want to go.
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And I would tell you that you're probably
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right.
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But the question is, how do you change
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it so it goes where you want to
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go?
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Intention.
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Number 20, guys, insight follows pressure through experience.
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So a pressure that gets us to want
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to move, a pressure that gets us to
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want to change.
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All right?
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Number 21, guys, change follows discomfort all the
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time when action is taken.
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So if we're uncomfortable and we want to
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change that, I'll give you an example.
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Maybe you're sitting in a chair.
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Maybe you're not comfortable.
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And you're like, oh, wait a minute.
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I don't want to feel that way anymore.
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Well, you change your position.
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And now you don't feel as uncomfortable.
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Number 22, guys, clarity follows confusion through reflection,
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through reflection.
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That's very important to know, important
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because it'll change our pathway.
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And when our pathway changes, we're much more
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likely to reach success.
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If we've been going down the same route
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for a long time and we're not getting
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success, it's high time we change the pattern.
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Number 23, guys, strength follows resistance through endurance,
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through endurance, through endurance.
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Does that make sense?
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Through endurance.
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And when we know that endurance is part
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of our picture, when we know that endurance
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is going to get us through what we
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need, we're more likely to move forward.
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Number 24, wisdom follows experience over time.
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You will gain so much knowledge over time.
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You will gain more knowledge being part of
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something than trying to learn it from a
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book.
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The analogy I gave a long time ago
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is I was very fortunate to be part
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of ALSG, American Leadership Study Groups when they
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were around.
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And I started traveling to Europe when I
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was in high school.
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And we got credit for the different courses.
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But I got more wisdom about the different
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countries in Europe than I would learn in
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three or four years of school.
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That's pretty cool, guys.
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Number 25, growth follows pressure when it's embraced.
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Growth is something that happens because we respond
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to the signals, to the data we get
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from ourself.
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But a lot of people don't respond to
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that data.
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They're like, oh, you know what, that's OK.
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I'll just keep doing the same thing over
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and over again and expecting different results.
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And what is that, ladies and gentlemen, we've
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learned before?
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That is what Einstein says.
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Insanity, doing the same thing over and over
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again, expecting results is insanity.
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So why are people doing this?
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I don't know.
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They're not going to get the results.
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Number 26, direction follows struggle with persistence.
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With persistence.
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Transformation follows breakdown, number 27.
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And it causes a rebuilding.
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A rebuilding that says, wait a minute, this
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makes full sense.
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That's the key.
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A breakdown, but then a rebuilding of where
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we are.
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Number 28, guys, awareness follows tension in key
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moments.
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What if awareness could be present all the
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time and not just in the key moments?
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What if we could learn how to harness
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awareness every day as something we do as
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easily as we breathe?
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A skill, right?
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We're born with the ability to breathe, but
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we're not born with the ability to know
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how to communicate.
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We're not born with the ability to know
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how to decipher information from our environment.
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We're not born with that.
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We have to learn that skill, guys.
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Number 29, understanding follows conflict through processing.
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When we understanding goes through and we follow
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the conflict through processing, we're able to get,
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ladies and gentlemen, this solved.
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But again, this does not happen overnight, guys.
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This is not something that's going to happen
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overnight.
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I am sorry to tell you that, but
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it does happen.
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It's just we've got to be a little
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patient.
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Number 30, guys, revelation follows resistance when truth
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is accepted.
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So a big upbringing happens positively when there's
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a bunch of resistance, when truth is accepted.
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So when the truth comes around, people are
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like, oh, you know what?
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I think I'm going to change my tune.
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I think I'm going to change my belief
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in what I'm thinking.
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That's a very, very powerful thing, guys.
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When we change our belief, our life changes.
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Our life changes when we change our belief.
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When we change our belief, magic happens.
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The impossible that we thought was not viable
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suddenly becomes easy.
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My question to you today is, if someone
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said to you, this is the formula to
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be successful, would you try it?
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Or would you wait and say, you know
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what?
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I'll just wait and keep doing things the
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way they will, and eventually it'll work out.
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But you know what?
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It never will work out.
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When will you say enough's enough, and I
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need to change so that I can grow,
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so that I can become the person that
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I've been wanting to be for a very
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long time?
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I'm asking this question, when will you do
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that?
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Or will you never do that?
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That's my question for you.
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So ladies and gentlemen, what are you resisting
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right now?
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Is it something to avoid, or something you're
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trying to be guided toward?
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Most people stay stuck, not because they lack
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ability, but because they ignore what resistance is
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trying to teach them.
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Direction changes when truth is accepted.
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That can be scary, but it's very enlightening.
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Ladies and gentlemen, I am John C.
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Morley.
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I thank you so much for joining me
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on Inspirations for Your Life today.
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And ladies and gentlemen, when truth shows up,
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that is your moment to change direction.
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Do not wait.
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Talk to us real soon.
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Take care, everyone.