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The black hole of making excuses · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim. Every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places her chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens, Hey everybody. Good morning from the chicken
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  coop. So I want to ask you a question
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  about making excuses because for me this is something that I know
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  inherently. I do it myself, we all do it.
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  We're all trained to do it from the time where kids there are
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  certain triggers in the world that caused this to come up and
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  making excuses is a black hole. It's a vortex You can't get out
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  of you become, you know, sucked into it regularly because you're
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  you nobody wants to take accountability.
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  God forbid. We actually take accountability
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  for our actions, but even more than our actions, oh, it sucks.
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  When we have to take accountability for the outcomes,
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  we have in our life because we don't want to say, hey, it's
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  because of me. Hey, it's because I showed how I
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  showed up, hey, it's because of the choices I've made we just
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  say, hey, this is because I did this.
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  I did this, I did this. And then that was the result of
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  it and we look at it like, yeah, I made the decision to move to
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  the new company but you know, they told me X, Y and Z, and the
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  truth is that that probably is very accurate.
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  That's what happened, and maybe you were lied to, and maybe
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  somebody told you information that was not accurate.
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  Maybe somebody LED you to believe something was going to
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  be different. But ultimately, ultimately, they
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  are not responsible, you are responsible, because at any
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  point in time, When you saw things coming, when you heard
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  the shifts, when you maybe didn't do the due diligence, you
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  should have. When you didn't look at the
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  people in the company individually, do the research?
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  See who you would be working with and for And I'm using that
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  as an example, but this goes across the board, it doesn't
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  matter if it's a personal relationship or a business
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  relationship, ultimately, we have the responsibility of
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  accountability and it's not just for our actions but it's for the
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  outcomes of the actions. So if you are in a position
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  right now in your life, where you're looking at the conditions
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  around you and you're like, I don't like them, it's really
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  easy to turn around and say, well, it's because of this or
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  it's because This external factor.
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  It's really difficult to stop and pause and say, nope, this is
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  because of me this is because of something I did this is because
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  of how I show up, let's say that you find yourself in a position
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  where you're not as healthy as you want to be and you know
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  you're not healthy but you don't do anything about it and every
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  day day after day after day after day, you make excuses for
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  not going to the gym or not eating better, or making
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  unhealthy choices when you do. Eat and those unhealthy choices
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  really start to show up in your body.
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  And then all of a sudden, you find yourself with something
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  simple like high blood pressure and you know, high blood
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  pressure can be controlled with a pill.
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  But the reality is, if you have high blood pressure, there are
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  underlying conditions that 90% of the time you are responsible
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  for because it has to do with weight and diet.
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  That is a fact. It weight diet and exercise.
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  Those three things are really the driving Factor.
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  So then you you know you're too busy during the week to work
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  out, you're too busy to even walk.
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  You're too busy to put on a Fitbit and try to figure out how
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  many steps you take in. You're too busy to go and
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  actually make shakes Lunch or pack them ahead of time.
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  So you just end up eating whatever.
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  Is there whatever is available anywhere you go.
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  And before you know it that high blood pressure leads to having
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  heart attack and then you say, oh I don't know what happened.
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  I had a heart attack. Well, no, you did.
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  You had the warnings all along. You just didn't want to heed
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  them. And this is where the black hole
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  comes in. This is where it just sucks you
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  in. And, in this Society, the way we
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  are right now, I will tell you You accountability is something
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  that is so missing. Nobody wants to take
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  responsibility for anything. Everybody wants to pass the buck
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  and put it out there and say, Hey, you know, it's not me, it's
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  something else and it's so conditioned, even I find it easy
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  to say, I can make an excuse and get away with it right now
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  because Society has made it that simple and it takes really,
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  really hard mental work to say, I will not Participate.
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  In that reality, we create our reality.
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  We create our reality. Hear me say that.
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  We create our reality. So, if we want to create a
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  better reality, we have to have better thoughts.
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  We have to have better actions, we have to have better beliefs,
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  we have to act into it differently and if you are
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  creating excuses, anywhere in your life, and I know you are
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  because I do it to everybody does.
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  This is not a oh, I'm so I'm beyond that.
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  No, you don't understand. I don't make excuses bullshit.
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  It everybody does it. I do it myself and it doesn't
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  make it doesn't make a difference.
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  If you believe it or you don't believe it.
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  It's a reality and we have to monitor it and say, okay sure.
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  A few excuses here and there. I get it.
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  It's just part of The Human Condition.
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  It's part of Being Human. It's our humanness coming
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  through, but the truth is, we have to look at it and we have
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  to hold the line and we have to stop ourselves because if we
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  don't nobody else will. And if we don't take
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  responsibility, D for what we have going on and we don't take
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  responsibility for what we are creating on a consistent basis
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  and look at it and say no, you know, I'm not okay with this.
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  I'm not okay with being treated but like this by my partner I'm
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  not okay, being treated like this by my family.
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  I'm not okay doing all this and the reason it's all happening is
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  because you're letting it happen.
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  You're the one that's letting it happen, you know Maya Angelou is
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  has a quote about you know we teach people how to treat us.
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  Yes, yes we do. Yes, we do by our actions, by
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  what we allow why what we disallow by how we show up in
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  those moments, everything. In this Human Experience that we
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  are having because I truly believe that we Are Spiritual
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  Beings, having a human experience to teach us things.
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  It is all about that. It is all about that we create
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  at all. So you have to stop and pause
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  and put a sense of reality around it and tell Yourself.
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  I'm going to have a real good come to Jesus meeting with
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  myself about where this is showing up and don't lie to
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  yourself because it happens. It happens to me.
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  I made an excuse the other day saying, oh, I didn't get a
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  chance to take care of that dealing with all the stuff that
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  I need to for paperwork's hate doing paperwork.
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  I know you guys have heard that before when I've told you that
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  on the podcast before, I don't like doing paperwork, it's just
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  not my thing to sit still and in front of a computer and I made
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  an excuse and you know I'm aware of it.
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  I'm I'm here to admit it. I made an excuse.
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  I just said, you know, it's not, I'm not in the mood to do what I
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  feel like I have a headache. My back hurts.
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  I just don't, I can't concentrate.
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  No, it wasn't that. I couldn't concentrate, I didn't
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  want to. I just didn't want to.
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  So tell the truth. Don't make the excuse, be honest
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  with yourself and then shift, because that's the only way
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  we're all going to make headways.
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  So I know this was a kick-ass one today, but I need you to pay
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  attention to this piece because if you're ever going to get
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  yourselves to a place, you want to be And Thrive.
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  You got to be honest with yourself about this stuff.
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  So no more going down the excuse route without being aware of it.
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  Sure you're going to do it anyway and I know you're going
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  to make excuses because I'm going to do it because that's
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  just the human condition but it's do it and be aware of it.
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  Okay. I adore.
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  You guys. I hope you have a fabulous day
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  and I will see you tomorrow. Bye.