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5-MINUTE FRIDAY: The One Thing I've Never Felt Good About Doing Alone · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: Hey, everyone, it's Emily coming to you live from the
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  Speaker 1: AG studio. You are listening to five Minute Friday from Hurdle.
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  Speaker 2: Hope everyone is.
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  Speaker 1: Having a good Friday, Christmas Eve, tonight, Christmas tomorrow, if
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  Speaker 1: you are celebrating and sending you all the good vibes,
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  Speaker 1: I feel like it's probably also relevant right now to
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  Speaker 1: just send some healthy vibes into the world. I recognize
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  Speaker 1: that New York City, as it has been in the past,
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  Speaker 1: is certainly the epicenter of God. Whatever is going on
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  Speaker 1: in our world right now with COVID, I feel like
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  Speaker 1: everybody has it, but I am lucky in that I'm
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  Speaker 1: literally knocking on wo on my desk right now, but
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  Speaker 1: I do not. I've been rapid tested, rapid PCR tested,
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  Speaker 1: caveat there twice this week and pretty much isolating myself
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  Speaker 1: in preparation to see some family tonight.
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  Speaker 2: So I hope that however you're.
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  Speaker 1: Celebrating, if you are celebrating, you are safe and healthy
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  Speaker 1: and happy. And that's it for five Minute Friday. This week,
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  Speaker 1: I want to talk to you about spending New Years
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  Speaker 1: by myself. I'm gonna be honest. I used to feel
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  Speaker 1: a lot of anxiety about this particularly somehow, I have
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  Speaker 1: no issue spending a lot of my time alone. I
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  Speaker 1: work for myself, I live on my own. I'm very independent.
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  Speaker 1: I like to go eat alone, out to eat alone,
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  Speaker 1: I like to travel alone, like so many things, Like
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  Speaker 1: solo time is great with me. But for some reason,
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  Speaker 1: the idea of spending New Years alone always made me
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  Speaker 1: feel like I was really doing something wrong. And over
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  Speaker 1: the last couple of weeks, as the world has slowly
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  Speaker 1: started to shift and the COVID crazy here, I for
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  Speaker 1: the first time, like in my adult life, feel a
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  Speaker 1: beautiful sense of peace about the idea of just being
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  Speaker 1: here in my own space to start off a new year.
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  Speaker 1: And I'm not saying, as you know, we've heard people
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  Speaker 1: speak about the pandemic and whatnot in this way like
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  Speaker 1: I'm not saying I'm happy that this has happened, but
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  Speaker 1: I was really dealing with like this huge mental block
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  Speaker 1: about the idea that like, oh, if you're home alone
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  Speaker 1: on New Year's then like, how lame are you that
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  Speaker 1: you have nothing to do? How lame are you that
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  Speaker 1: you're probably gonna fall asleep before it even hits midnight?
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  Speaker 1: What does this mean for the start of your new year?
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  Speaker 1: Like I was putting so much like in retrospect when
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  Speaker 1: I think about this unnecessary pressure on myself to have
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  Speaker 1: something to do, because as this woman in my early thirties,
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  Speaker 1: I'm single, like I should be doing X, Y or Z,
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  Speaker 1: and honestly, now having shit in my perspective and being
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  Speaker 1: forced almost to this place, I am so grateful that
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  Speaker 1: I was able to get out of my own way.
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  Speaker 1: You know, I'm not saying that for certain, one hundred
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  Speaker 1: percent I'm going to be sitting on my couch here
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  Speaker 1: by myself on New Year's Eve. But what I am
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  Speaker 1: saying is I feel so much better now knowing that
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  Speaker 1: whatever happens that night doesn't make me any less of
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  Speaker 1: a person. And I know that probably sounds like silly
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  Speaker 1: or whatever, but at the end of the day, our
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  Speaker 1: perception is our reality, and I have done so much
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  Speaker 1: great work on getting to a place where I feel
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  Speaker 1: so good as me and I know that I, Emily
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  Speaker 1: a body, have so much to give. But sometimes, you know,
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  Speaker 1: we go through moments where we may falter in that.
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  Speaker 1: I think this is a really great example of just
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  Speaker 1: because you may be great at navigating a hurdle at
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  Speaker 1: one point doesn't mean that old anxieties or feelings about
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  Speaker 1: something to arise at another But the best thing that
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  Speaker 1: we can do with ourselves in these hurdle moments is
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  Speaker 1: have some grace and take a deep breath and know
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  Speaker 1: that it may not feel like it in that instant,
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  Speaker 1: but you will get through it and you're going to
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  Speaker 1: learn from it too. My prompt for you this week,
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  Speaker 1: what is something that has previously made you uncomfortable that
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  Speaker 1: you want to perhaps overcome in the new year. Again,
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  Speaker 1: what is something that previously made you uncomfortable or gave
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  Speaker 1: you anxiety and you want to work on or overcome
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  Speaker 1: in the new year. And now a listener question.
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  Speaker 2: Hi, Emily, this is Jessica from Chicago. I love your
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  Speaker 2: podcast and I love listening to it during work when
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  Speaker 2: I'm writing as well. I'm in marketing, so whenever i'm
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  Speaker 2: doing something, i love to listen for some inspiration. So
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  Speaker 2: I'm curious if you have any bucket list races in mind.
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  Speaker 2: I like to run the States, so I'm always curious
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  Speaker 2: what everybody's bucket list races. If you could go anywhere
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  Speaker 2: in the world, and let's take lottery picks out of
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  Speaker 2: the question, just you could get into wherever you wanted,
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  Speaker 2: where would that be? I look forward to hearing your
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  Speaker 2: answer and your why have a great day.
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  Speaker 1: Hey, Jessica, good question. So for those of you that
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  Speaker 1: don't know, there are the six races marathons that are
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  Speaker 1: called the World Marathon Majors, and if you run all six,
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  Speaker 1: you're part of like an exclusive amount of runners who
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  Speaker 1: have done all six and you get the school medal whatever.
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  Speaker 1: So these World Marathon Majors include New York, Chicago, Boston, Berlin, Tokyo,
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  Speaker 1: and London. I have run New York, Boston, and Chicago,
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  Speaker 1: but I still have yet to run Berlin, London, and Tokyo,
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  Speaker 1: and so those are definitely on the top of my list.
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  Speaker 1: I am hoping to run London in twenty twenty two
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  Speaker 1: and then Tokyo maybe in twenty twenty three, so that
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  Speaker 1: will make Berlin the last to check off, and then
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  Speaker 1: I mean, who knows how much longer I'll actually be
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  Speaker 1: running full marathons for, but those are certainly at the
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  Speaker 1: top of my list. I wouldn't mind running one in Paris,
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  Speaker 1: and I've heard the Paris Marathon is absolutely stunning. But
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  Speaker 1: other than that, that's kind of what's on my radar
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  Speaker 1: that is it for this week?
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  Speaker 2: My friends.
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  Speaker 1: I feel like this episode was a little extra rambly
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  Speaker 1: over here, but I hope that you have something nice
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  Speaker 1: on deck for your weekend. If you're celebrating, if you're
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  Speaker 1: not enjoy it, take some you time, find something a
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  Speaker 1: little festive to get you in the spirit, and I'll
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  Speaker 1: see you soon at Emily Body at Hurdle Podcast Another
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  Speaker 1: hurdle conquered. Catch you guys next time in my