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Why Your Friendships Feel Off... Even When Nothing Is Wrong | SEER SESSIONS #270 · Seer Sessions

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  Hey everyone, it's Gina you're listening to See your sessions.
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  I share guided hypnotic journeys and conversations that help you
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  quiet mental noise, rebuild yourself trust.
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  Also, you can make decisions from your clear center to create
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  a life that feels aligned to you.
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  And I am recording this from one of my favorite places, Joshua
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  Tree National Park. If you want to see where I'm at,
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  you can watch the video that's on YouTube or Spotify.
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  If you're going in, you're expanding your awareness, you're
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  expanding your capacity, your shifting your beliefs, you're
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  changing your point of view on life.
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  Your friendships are going to change.
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  For a lot of my clients, friendship would come up because
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  as we're on these journeys of like learning and growing and
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  shifting and changing, of course our relationships are going to
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  shift and change because we are half of them.
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  I've definitely gone through phases with friendship.
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  Friends are there for a season for a reason.
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  I don't think it's necessarily like the longer the better and I
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  don't think it's a failure of the friendship if it comes to an
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  end or the people kind of like grow and evolve away from each
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  other or away from that relationship.
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  A lot of times there is no big argument or betrayal or big
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  shift that we can like really put our finger on.
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  It's just like these subtle feelings that start to grow as
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  we subtly start to shift and change within ourselves and like
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  how we move through our life and just being more intentional
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  along with that, to spend our time and energy in ways that
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  feel a little bit more aligned with who we are authentically
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  and where we want to go. So one of the reasons why I
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  wanted to talk about friendship is because I spent so much time
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  in friendships that had really been outgrown because these
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  shifts and changes are so subtle.
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  It took me a really long time. Like some of my friendships,
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  they took different life paths and decisions and I didn't
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  really get it. I didn't really see that I was
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  kind of just like doing life, trying to hang on to these
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  relationships with people who were like growing and changing.
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  And So what I want to do with this topic is allow you to
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  explore the subtleties of it because I don't want you to be
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  like me where I just right away was like, I'm an asshole for not
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  liking this relationship as much anymore.
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  It really kept me stuck in relationships and frankly, a lot
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  of life decisions that just weren't for me anymore.
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  So I thought, let's talk about friendship on this podcast
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  because I know the people doing hypnosis, you are all growing,
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  changing, shifting. Your perspective, your
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  consciousness and your awareness are expanding.
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  And so of course your relationships are going to shift
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  and change. And I don't think it's
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  necessarily about automatically ending a relationship that feels
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  kind of out of alignment. It's really about tuning into
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  the subtleties of like you and what you want most in any
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  relationship. A lot of my clients in their
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  sessions, it came up so much that I started to notice a
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  pattern of like, how is this actually taking place within
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  people? Like, what are these subtle
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  changes? Because I right away, as someone
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  who can just immediately criticize myself and see the
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  wrong within me, it was easy for me to look at that and just
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  almost like feel the discomfort and then like set it to the side
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  because I didn't want to even think about the relationship
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  being over. I didn't want to think about,
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  you know, someone's life change, meaning that I had to change.
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  So we work to identify these subtleties so we can establish
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  patterns sooner and then make decisions and smooth out these
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  areas of our life that are draining us, that are
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  frustrating us, that drain. And that frustration is even
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  more taxing when we're unconscious of it.
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  Because when we're unconscious of it, we do a lot of shit to
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  cover it up. That if we were conscious of it,
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  we would maybe instead be like, oh, you know what?
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  This is actually something I'd want to clean up anyway, instead
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  of just being unconsciously, subconsciously driven by this
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  behavior, this fear, this point of view.
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  OK, so let's talk about it. I got some notes.
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  So the first thing that would come up, you're growing, you're
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  shifting, you're changing, you're healing.
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  When we do that, it doesn't seem big like expanding your
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  awareness, shifting your beliefs in your point of view, they all
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  seem like invisible little things that you maybe do if
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  you're like incredibly in pain or I don't know, have a lot of
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  time on your hands. But really, this healing work
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  that we do is work that allows us to, like, relax in our
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  physical body and our nervous system and allows with that, our
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  perception to shift and change. We take on a greater awareness,
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  more wisdom, a sort of evolution.
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  So if you've surrounded yourself with people who aren't doing
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  that, it's completely normal for you to not feel satisfied by
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  those people. Now, do you have to kick those
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  people out of your life? Not necessarily.
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  And if you want to go deeper into that idea, that question of
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  like, when do you cut someone out On Patreon, we go deeper
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  into this conversation. I share more stories about
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  clients and friendship. My own habits around friendship
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  that I used to see have moved through where I'm at right now
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  with friendship. And then I also share clips from
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  a higher self session of mine that I did last year where we
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  talked about when do you cut someone out?
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  Just the fact they bring you down or make you feel at all
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  depleted or frustrated or resentful, is that a reason to
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  cut them out? Not always.
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  So my higher self lays that out. And a little bit more specific,
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  like other questions that you can ask yourself that help you
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  get at that clarity. Because it sucks to end a
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  relationship, so why do it automatically, dramatically.
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  And then along those lines of your having these subtle yet
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  profound shifts on your perspective on life, your
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  perspective on yourself, how you want to do relationships, how
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  you're seeing, how energy is in your life, where you get it,
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  where it depletes you. So of course, with that, you're
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  going to become more aware of roles in your life, roles you
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  played for acceptance, roles you played to please someone who was
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  important to you. All of those things become more
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  and more clear. And unfortunately, all of those
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  old roles that we kind of step out of, a lot of times,
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  unfortunately, our friends are kind of reliant on us being in
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  those roles. You know, whether it's like they
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  just are more comfortable with us there or maybe our growth
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  makes them uncomfortable. It doesn't matter, just us
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  shifting out of certain roles and ways of being to save
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  ourselves, to save our own energy, to redirect it to the
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  life we came here to create. That is uncomfortable for some
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  people and it destroys relationships when not everybody
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  is playing their part. So it's something to be aware
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  of. Sometimes that is a time for
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  that relationship to end or the two of you to kind of evolve in
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  different directions. And sometimes we can have a role
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  shift. And instead it's like a really
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  great opportunity to get clear on like, what do you want
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  instead in this relationship and to, you know, use all your
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  courage and bring it to that person, whatever that
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  conversation looks like to you. That's deep, vulnerable
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  conversation. If that goes well, that's
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  leveling up in that relationship.
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  The old roles, the shifting of your beliefs.
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  Just be aware of those things so you can move forward in a way
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  that doesn't cause all this subconscious friction and
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  resentment within you. Another common thing that
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  clients noticed was just the subtle feeling in certain
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  friendships where it just felt off, like they couldn't even put
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  their finger on it. Or maybe even, I know for me
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  consciously in my mind, it was like, I want to be here.
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  I want to be doing these things with this person or with these
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  people. But afterward, I would feel so
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  drained. And what would come up with
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  clients when it was this inexplicable feeling in their
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  body was always ultimately their body picking up on these subtle
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  shifts before their conscious mind did.
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  So to take that knowing of like this doesn't feel right anymore.
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  And bringing that question to a hypnotic journey can help
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  illuminate so much and help us to naturally evolve away from a
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  relationship without feeling guilt or resentment.
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  Or to shift and change in that relationship and deepen that
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  connection between you. Here's the thing.
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  Healing, going into your shaft, releasing or soothing your
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  trauma, understanding who you are authentically and what life
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  you came here to create and moving in that direction.
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  All of those things change not only you, your ability to move
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  in that direction, but it also completely changes what makes
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  you feel safe, what makes you have fun, what feels nourishing,
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  what feels performative and draining.
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  As I learned more about myself, what makes me happy, what truly
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  brings me joy, so many of my relationships were really
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  dependent on me abandoning myself.
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  Abandoning what I prefer to do in a relationship, Me abandoning
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  the points of view I want to share with certain people, me
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  abandoning whole groups of emotion, me abandoning who I
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  truly am to fill a role that served a lot of people in my
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  past. I spent years feeling like a
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  failure, feeling like a total Dick.
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  It's not failure, we're just evolving.
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  When you can clearly see what it is, you'll know how to move
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  forward. And if you've been experiencing
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  discomfort or resentment or just a drained feeling in your
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  friendships, that clarity is going to help you move forward
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  in a way that will either deepen that relationship or help it
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  come to its natural end. We've talked about intuition
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  this year. We've talked about creativity,
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  the expansion of awareness and consciousness, the wisdom that
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  comes from that. When we get quiet enough, we can
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  hear the truth. And so no matter how you change,
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  no matter how your life changes, being able to connect with your
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  clear center, your higher self, your truth, the clear reason why
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  you came here, the life you came here to create, as you get more
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  and more in contact with that, decisions about relationships,
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  creating relationships that are more nourishing is all a part of
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  that path. When I was on this journey, like
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  really looking into friendship, really trying to understand how
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  those relationships affect me and what's actually possible in
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  friendship for me, I started to ask myself questions that would
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  help me get clarity. These are the questions that I
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  used to ask myself when I started to feel kind of subtle
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  rumblings of this friendship is not it?
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  Who am I in this relationship to try to like remove myself from
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  it is if someone was watching the history of that relationship
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  in my memories, the evolution of it, the recent history of it,
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  and I would just try to see like are some of my old roles coming
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  up? I go deeper into that
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  conversation in the May 1st episode on Patreon.
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  I had some certain ways that I would operate in a relationship.
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  Being able to pause and get clarity.
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  I started to see all the ways that issue would come up in all
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  the different ways that issue would look in relationship.
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  Even if those roles get me acceptance, it doesn't get me
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  joy, it doesn't get me nourishment.
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  It doesn't get me the friendship that I feel like I deserve.
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  And then I would also do a little energy check, like how
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  did I feel going into that interaction?
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  How did I feel coming out of that interaction and is it what
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  I expected it to be? That's it.
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  Knowing those two things can also be a real clarifier as to
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  what is not working in this relationship any longer.
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  It's not about cutting everybody off.
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  This is about seeing clearly, noticing the patterns, and then
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  returning to yourself who you are authentically and who you
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  want to be in that relationship. We're not torching anything.
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  We're not starting any bonfires of your relationships.
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  We're just simply lighting the way to get a little clarity and
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  see if it is something you need to shift or change.
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  I'm going to tell you about the hypnotic journeys coming this
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  month to help you get some clarity around your
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  relationships so you can start building deeper, more nourishing
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  connections. Next week's episode, episode
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  271, is a hypnotic journey designed for you to listen to as
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  you drift off to sleep at night. So this journey helps you see
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  what's actually happening without needing to force a
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  decision or have assumptions. From an old perspective, a lot
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  of times a client would come in if they were in a dispute, like
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  in a relationship that was causing them stress, and they
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  would be thinking this is a communication issue.
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  I need to be able to communicate my point of view to this person
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  so they understand. And a lot of times what they
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  realize is that they don't need some big conversation with this
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  person. They needed to see how every
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  time they had an interaction with that person, they subtly
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  gave more and more of themselves away.
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  They subtly abandoned who they were and how they wanted to be
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  in this world to soothe or appease that person or to keep
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  that relationship intact for whatever reason.
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  All right, our second hypnotic journey this month comes in a
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  couple weeks. That's episode 272, and we are
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  journeying to another lifetime. This journey is going to help
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  you let go of the pressure to perform form inside of a
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  friendship. So maybe you have a friendship
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  and it's good, but for some reason you can't stop acting in
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  a certain way around them. So oftentimes we can be in
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  relationship with great people, but for whatever reason, we feel
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  the need to perform. This is a great place to start
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  if you feel like a little drained out of alignment with
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  who you are when you're interacting with a certain
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  relationship or friendship, even subconsciously.
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  People pleasing and adjusting who we are to serve the people
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  around us just to keep the peace.
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  It can be really easy for us to kind of click into some sort of
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  role, some sort of performance in a relationship.
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  And this hypnotic journey to another lifetime will give you
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  an experience where you can feel something else in your body.
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  Be able to then take that feeling into your life today
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  effortlessly and automatically and start subtly shifting these
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  relationships that you're in so your friendships become more
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  nourishing and just more aligned with who you are.
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  Our third hypnotic journey of the month is episode 273.
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  This journey to your higher self is something that I would use a
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  lot with clients. Oftentimes, when we can get
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  crystal clear on who we are and what we want and our vision for
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  how we want to be in friendship, that alone can relieve so much
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  frustration, so much confusion, and so much emotional and
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  energetic drain from certain relationships in our life.
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  Simply a change in perspective, change in your point of view.
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  That's all it takes to completely change how you move
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  and how you feel in certain friendships.
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  So you'll journey to your higher self and you're going to hear
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  some questions that are going to help you get crystal clear on
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  who you are and the relationships that you want to
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  create. Here's the thing with hypnosis
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  and your subconscious mind, nothing can change in your life,
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  but you can completely have a shift, a change of heart and how
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  you feel, how you value, how much gratitude you have for
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  things in your life, including friendships.
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  So if we can change our experience, let go of those old
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  rolls, get in touch with who we truly are and want to be in that
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  friendship, a lot of those things just kind of work
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  themselves out. And that's what these three
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  hypnotic journeys are designed to help you do this month.
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  A lot of people ignore friendship.
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  We can all make life choices and it seems like our 30s are where
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  kind of the rubber meets the road.
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  What life are you choosing? And that makes all the
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  difference for your relationships.
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  So many people assume that relationships and friendships,
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  ships are just seamlessly easy and automatic.
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  This quiet misalignment comes up constantly in sessions.
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  You're not failing, you're just evolving in a certain direction.
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  You're just understanding more about the life you came here to
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  create and in that are going to be some shifts and changes.
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  So go in, get some clarity and start experiencing more
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  nourishment, more gratitude for those friendships that you have,
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  whether you have friendship issues or not, when in
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  relationship communication, when in the space of others, just
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  notice. Like notice how you feel.
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  Notice do you feel like your energy is shrinking?
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  Do you feel like you're leaning in?
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  Do you feel like you want to leave?
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  Do you feel like you want to stay?
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  Just notice how you feel in relationship this week and
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  that's it. Like sometimes noticing what our
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  body feels, taking that second of mindfulness can illuminate
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  pretty easily. Like the next path, a way for us
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  to feel more calm, rooted, clear, expansive, joyful in any
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  place that we show up to. If you want to go deeper into
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  this, I'm sharing more personal patterns and session insights on
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  Patreon. And of course, the journeys this
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  month are designed to help you actually feel your way through
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  this, not just think about it. So this week, notice.
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  Notice when you feel like yourself.
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  Notice when you if you don't notice when you're alone, notice
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  when you're with other people. And then trust what you quietly
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  know. We'll keep exploring this
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  together. I'll see you next week.