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Season 3 - Episode 131 - The Habit of using 'when' · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning From the Chicken Coop Podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermind set
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop along with all her chickens.
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  Hey, everybody. Good morning from the chicken
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  coop. When's the last time that you
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  used the phrase? Well, I'll do that when,
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  whatever that may be. You know, we, we are constant.
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  We can substitute any word in there.
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  But we're constantly saying, well, I'll get to that when or
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  I'll do that when. And we put things off and we
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  wait. It's like, oh, I'll get a puppy
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  when we do this. Or I will, you know, sit down
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  and take the time to read a book when I finished.
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  Da da, da da da, whatever. You want to slot in there.
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  I think it's become too commonplace for us to constantly
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  be saying to ourselves, well, I'm going to just put it till
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  here or I'll do it there or I'll take the vacation when this
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  happens. Now sometimes you have to do
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  that jokingly. I say this because my son just
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  said, oh, he wants to go on this trip and he and my son is not a
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  fantastically well versed eater. He very much likes his simple
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  food. Not that I feed him like bad
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  food at all, but he is one of these kids that likes cheese and
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  meat. He just does not love
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  vegetables. I mean, me getting a banana into
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  him is a big deal and I have to push for it every day.
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  He's just never been that guy, and I know he'll eventually be
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  that guy. So I'm patient because everybody
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  turns around at some point. I've only met one person in my
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  life who was still a grown adult man and could only eat, you
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  know, macaroni and cheese with hot dogs in it.
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  And that was interesting. But that's another story.
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  So he asked me if we could go on vacation.
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  And I said, well, I can't take you to that particular place
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  that you want to go on vacation because you don't eat variety of
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  foods. And when we get over there,
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  they're going to have foods that you don't recognize.
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  So you're going to have to eat other foods so we can go on that
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  vacation when. And then, you know, you decide
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  to eat. And I heard myself saying it and
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  I was like, wow, how many times do we do that?
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  And it's legitimate and how many times do we do it that it's just
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  a completely, you know, ridiculous way to hold ourselves
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  off. We have to realize that when we
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  pull that card and we start to talk about it, we have to be
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  careful because most of the time it's not a legitimate excuse.
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  It's not something that's real. It's a made-up excuse that just
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  says well you know, I I've, I've put myself into this box that is
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  holding me back. For instance, I think it's like
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  I'll be happy when I get this done, that phrase, Oh my God.
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  I can't tell you how much I hear that come out of people's
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  mouths. I hear it when I'm not even
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  coaching. I can hear it when I'm.
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  I heard it the other day was I'm in the store I was shopping with
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  for stuff for my son, for him to go camping and all of a sudden I
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  heard this woman say, well I'll be happy when you're done to the
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  her, her husband partner, whatever he was.
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  And I thought to myself, well, this is such a chronic problem.
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  It's everywhere. We tell ourselves that, we tell
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  other people that. And there's no way to win around
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  those comments. If you're, if you're saying I'm
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  going to delay my happiness until this takes place or I'm
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  going to delay this trip or whatever it might be until this.
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  So you have to decide first of all, is it legitimate?
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  In my case, I stand by it. It was legitimate, but I've done
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  it myself a million times where it's not legitimate.
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  I'll be happy when I get this garden finished.
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  I'll be happy when these grow this way.
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  I'll be happy when I have this, you know, thing done in my
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  chicken coop that I want to do. But the truth is, I can be happy
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  anyway. The truth is I don't have to
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  wait for any of that to happen. I can just choose happiness.
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  And I I I say this often and I want to drill this into you
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  guys. You don't have to be happy when
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  you can be happy anyway. Despite everything that's going
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  on, you can be happy. I have met many, many, many,
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  many people in my life, very blessed through all my work at
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  Tony Robbins to meet many people who had challenges that some of
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  us will never, ever face, most of us will never ever face.
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  And those people were happy anyway.
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  They just chose joy. They chose happiness.
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  They chose love. They chose all these awesome
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  ways to be, and they certainly had no reason to.
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  They could have just stayed the way that they were.
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  They could have stayed the way that they were miserable and you
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  know, down on themselves, down on life.
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  But you know what? They didn't.
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  What they did was they said I'm just going to be happy and I'll
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  deal with all this crap anyway. And for me, it was such a great
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  lesson and reminder that we have to choose it.
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  We must choose it. We must choose to find the joy.
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  We must choose to do the things that are difficult to do, which
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  is choosing that in spite of everything else and not saying
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  I'm going to delay it until this happens.
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  Why would we delay happiness? Why would we delay joy?
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  Why would we put a delay on anything wonderful in our life?
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  Why not just go ahead and say, you know what, I'm just going to
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  do it. I'm just going to have it.
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  I'm going to put it out there for myself because I know how
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  important it is. I think it's a it's a worthwhile
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  endeavour to push yourself and say no, I'm not going to
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  postpone anything anymore that causes me to not find what I'm
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  looking for. I'm going to go out there and
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  I'm going to push myself. Whether it's happiness or joy
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  or, you know, love or saying, hey, I've always wanted to jump
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  in and do this. I've always wanted to try it.
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  If there's something that you've always wanted to try to do, like
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  play the guitar, oh, I'll do that when I retire.
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  Trust me, you don't want to wait because you don't know if you'll
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  ever have the gift of retirement.
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  You don't know if you'll ever have the the gift of the next
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  phase because life is full of uncertainties.
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  So why wait? Why postpone things?
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  Why not just push yourself to the place of saying, you know,
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  whether it's the small things or the big things?
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  I'm going to ask myself, why am I postponing this?
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  Is it legitimate or not? Stop postponing and find it.
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  Put yourself out there because I promise you, you don't want to
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  be the person who says at the end of their life.
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  I wish I had because that sucks. All right, my friends, I will
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  see you tomorrow. Take care and have a very
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  blessed day. Bye.