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LIVING With AUTISM How To ADHD Interview: (Real Life Experience) · Aspergers & Autism Podcast [The Aspie World] AuDHD

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  In this podcast. I'm interviewed by Josh from how
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  to ADHD on living with autism until it's super cool.
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  Hope you enjoy let me know what you think about it in a tweet on
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  Twitter and checking out my patreon piece.
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  So I was in VidCon last year and I hung out with Jess from how to
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  ADHD and other awesome channel. So please check that and we did
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  a video on basically Asperger syndrome and talking about ADHD
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  and stuff like that and how they kind of interact and living with
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  autism. So so without further Ado,
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  please enjoy. Let's talk about friends.
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  Like was it hard for you to make friends?
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  Do you are there certain qualifications that you look for
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  in a friend now so growing up it was difficult to make friends
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  right? Because Yeah, the weird kid who
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  doesn't play outside in the playground.
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  You don't understand people's houses who never go to the
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  social events to educate you don't you don't pay unlike the
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  peewee football team, you know, all my friends did all this
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  stuff and I was just a hump my leg over the whole time.
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  So it was definitely difficult to make friends because needed
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  to find someone who was just as bizarre as you and it should
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  weigh like so it was yeah it was difficult.
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  But those are dyslexic kid who's called Mike who's it's called me
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  and he just loved Lego and I was like boom and even lived like a
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  block. Away from my house.
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  So we were really good friends and best ones.
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  He's like my only friends until I got to high school really and
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  then I had I met guy said it earlier.
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  I might go Jake and we played music together.
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  And so then I started playing cycling bass guitar.
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  And so what happened was I went from having like two friends
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  from high school and from primary school and then going
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  into High School playing music and this opened is Floodgate Of
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  creative brains, and then I could have common ground.
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  So until that point I Talk about anything like he was this weird
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  thing about football be like, I'd like to see something like
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  all like what you think about girls, right and I'll be like so
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  whenever like what you think I'll face.
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  I'm like dude. I don't get fostering base.
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  I'm using the 25 gauge right now.
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  This is a fender Mexican Precision.
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  So the like so I have something to talk about housing that
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  relate and that was like to me that was that was everything.
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  I changed my life having music right changed my life too much.
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  Honestly, like I found the same. I would always be weird and not
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  fit in until I found something where I could connect with
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  people about something like when there was a focal point.
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  So I did really well in like bands.
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  I did really well in theater like places where I'm like Hey,
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  we're into the same thing. There was always Common Ground.
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  Where is like in the rest of my life?
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  It feels very separate, you know feels very like disconnected
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  disconnected. Yeah.
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  Yeah. Yeah, but I think it's tough you
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  have this social expectation. If you're in a bus stop people
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  going to talk to you about I don't know whether or shopping
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  or that family or something. I can't decide.
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  I'm thinking of ways. I don't care like it's not like
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  I'm being rude. I just like I don't know this
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  person. Like why would I think you know
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  asking me about my personal life so we had very like agent play
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  bass. I'm like, yeah, you know, so I
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  think we're always expected to have unusual conversations with
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  complete strangers that we have no interest in any fun.
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  What is unusual because for most people is like a very typical
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  conversation, but it's small talk and I can't steer smoke
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  either because there's nothing stimulating our Gauging about
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  it. There's nothing interesting to
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  me about the weather unless you know, unless there is something
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  interesting about the weather like one time.
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  I got caught in a flood and they had to sail boats to that cart
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  happens to get our medications if we need medications like that
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  was interesting but usually the weather is not that interesting
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  subject and its focus on wind howling people.
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  Just just feel this need to talk to other people about absolute
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  rubbish. It's like, oh, okay.
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  So do you engage in small talk if needed or do you kind of You
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  the conversation away. Well, I took this is what I do.
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  I have a system. Okay, so I'm I'm I'm wizard like
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  my sister like Alex so we're bit home feeling it.
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  He'll stop the conversation of say small talk and I'll jump
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  until we like how about, you know avocado toast bar the other
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  day that was like a bad cold again.
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  I really like toast, you know, so I'll come in with like I'll
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  just follow what he does. But if I'm on my own a little
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  bit like, you know, it's difficult.
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  I can't stand those conversations, um, like because
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  it's like Like it's weird. Like I have nothing to say and
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  it's hard because like oh my God, I wish they'd just didn't
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  say anything to me because it was like now I just looks stupid
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  something like, you know, and it's difficult, right?
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  It's developed people think I'm an arrogant.
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  I think that's a lot because in one arrogant like idiot, really
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  and I'm not like I love people I love doing stuff on helping
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  people but it's because of that neurotypical idea of like have
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  to be in a certain way to be accepted as a cool person right
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  now these social norms where it's like, okay that small talk
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  is To be kind of in an invasive way to get to know somebody like
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  and like break the ice in it. I don't know any casual way
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  before you start talking about anything.
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  That's really meaningful to either person.
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  How do you start conversations? If you start conversations,
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  well, I always thought conversations with people
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  because I know I'm going to see that person.
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  So I wouldn't have to The Strangers that's Islands in
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  right? So I was like, I'm going to see
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  this guy and we're going to talk about buying a new piece of
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  camera equipment. So I'm gonna be like yo camera
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  equipment so I'm here to buy this invoke.
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  Yeah, and but I love this. Thing I was touring assigned a
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  bomb, right? So you get something I was in a
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  I was in a tour with a guy called Thomas Nicholas who's in
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  the American Pie movies. He plays Kevin writers in
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  American Pie as he's a good friend of mine and he plays
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  music song playing music in his band with him for a bit and I
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  was playing music on to with him and we went to this hotel and a
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  really cool trick of small talk. He went up to the desk and he's
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  like, hi. My name is Thomas.
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  I'm staying here tonight. And then he said what he needed.
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  I was like, this is amazing. So now Hi, I'm Daniel.
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  I really need to do this. So I always thought every
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  conversation with hi. I'm down.
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  I think you know, it's like 40 70 when I met you.
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  I was like, I'm done. Yeah.
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  Yeah, I'm pretty sure you said hi.
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  I'm Daniel. I'm stealing your dog.
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  So I've got a new dog everybody. Don't worry about it Randall.
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  You've been sacked. Thank you for you know what your
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  purpose was exactly and I just honestly he is my best policy
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  and like but that but that was like the trick before then like
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  I wouldn't really know how to do that and that wasn't Thousand
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  twelve so before then I must have been like a right idiot.
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  Let's talk to people. It's like I really need that
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  jacket. Well, yeah the social niceties.
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  Well, what about relationships? When did you start dating but I
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  get asked this question a lot on my channel a lot of people want
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  to know more about relationships.
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  So if anybody does want to hear more about this stuff just leave
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  a comment and then I'll actually be their real story.
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  So I'll read the comments on this video.
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  So I'll reply to you and then I'll pick up some feedback.
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  So I started dating when I was. Like, okay.
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  Well, I started I had a fit my first I would go from the 15th,
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  right but it didn't really properly start dating people in
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  the center of dating sounds like a tea That's super late.
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  So my friends like, you know getting in trouble for doing
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  like crazy things with a girl friends and whatever, you know,
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  it's like 15 16 17 18, like the first actual seriously
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  relationship now, I've only ever had like two or three weeks
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  usually trait and it's Difficult, so I type how can I
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  say it like a find somebody who can I can stand my individual
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  nurse there and then another quirks that come with me and
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  then I'll stay on for quite a long time until like you know
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  that phase of my life is done with and then but luckily I
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  found someone who's awesome and I'm with her right now.
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  So I've been with ten years to a school that you can put up with
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  everything. So it's just it sniffing you and
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  years and years of a long time. So, how many do you have any
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  dating or relationship tips? Yeah, so I think the key to this
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  which isn't going to do every single person is that my partner
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  she actually is she's a specialist got first-degree
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  honors childhood studies for children with Asperger's and
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  autism. So she comes from a field.
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  Yeah, she comes with fuel getting it out of super early
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  stage. So when it comes to me, she kind
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  of knows how I am in relation to the kids.
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  She works at every single day. So stop watching us with
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  fashion. So I think the reason we watch
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  this because she at the time of maybe our relationship would
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  have maybe Broke she was educated in this thing.
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  And she was like became this like super nerd in it and that
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  she's like I can't wait to see it that you know, and she can
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  help me a lot and I mean it is like a give and take thing.
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  I have to learn stuff like a lot of people with a special design
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  amazing. I don't have to learn anything.
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  That's who I am and they're right they are who they are.
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  But I want to like I want to be the best person I can be you
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  know, so that means like learning for example is an
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  example. So one of the biggest issues I
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  have is being around her family having dinner stuff and and it's
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  not like a I don't like them. I love them but I feel like you
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  know like the whole Tivity of time when I like to do things
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  and I feel like I'm getting productive time when I'm with
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  with the family and we just having dinner.
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  I feel like okay, so I don't have anything that I relate to
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  these people with as a fact that I'm kind of a family member.
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  I love them. But like I don't know what else
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  to talk about. Nick had a guest excuse and I'll
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  start talking about like science and like stuff and they're just
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  a bit like what and so and I started avoiding those
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  situations are upset my job. Right?
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  So I then was of my therapist will touch like you've got to
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  persevere and go through those things because you need to give
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  a little to get a lot. Back, so that's why I do so it's
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  kind of like a possibility you have to you have to try and put
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  effort in and it's a learning process and I wouldn't say that
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  I learn it overnight taking me 10 years to get a good solid
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  stable place. So I think that's super
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  interesting. I think that's such a great way
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  of putting it because yeah, I think that it's great to be new
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  your I think that nerd adversity is a wonderful thing.
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  I wouldn't trade my brain for the world.
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  But at the same time I do live in a fairly neurotypical society
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  and it's important for me to manage my impairments and I
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  think that that's just a really The perspective to come from is
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  like yes, it's okay to be you. Like I'm you know Embrace that
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  but also like yeah, it isn't given take right.
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  I think that we can maybe meet in the middle like I you know,
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  you're doing your best to make eye contact with me or seem to
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  make eye contact. I'm doing my best not to make
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  eye contact in a way that's uncomfortable for you.
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  And I think that that's really the best way to approach it.
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  Right like we are all trying to live together and and I'll have
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  this copy society and yeah be able to help each other out if
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  everybody gives a little it's like any relationship with
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  anybody, you know, everybody's got different strengths and you
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  give and you take any compromise and make sure that everybody's
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  needs get met. I would really love to see a
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  world and where we meet the needs of people, you know, like
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  if you're neurodivergent, you meet the needs of the people who
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  are neurotypical and and vice versa.
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  I think that's a really just a really cool way of thinking
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  about it. Definitely should never be this
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  body. Like I don't need to change our
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  I don't need to learn because of who I am like, you know, there's
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  always room for improvement but anything right, so what if it
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  doesn't improve declines and you don't decline because the
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  planning goes backwards Right, but then there's no shame right?
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  No shame. That's awesome.
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  So, what was your first job my first ever job, of course job in
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  the world, right? I had a job being a bass player
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  for an Elvis Presley tribute bands the biggest one in the UK
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  and I was 16 years old and I got paid 200 pounds a day to play
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  one and a half hour group an amazing of plane in front of
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  12,000 people friends with him. That's amazing and the calling
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  of I just got to sit in the back and stage of the doubt the base
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  and Like that old perfect job. It really wants the job.
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  So what other what other jobs would be done?
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  I'm just a literally having this conversation outside on the
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  patio. So I've also done I worked for
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  Nerd Block lootcrate my cake box pop in the box and making
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  goodies with your like monthly subscription box service has
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  toys. I helped with implementing
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  monetary systems to help speed up their processor and making
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  them more efficient and physical systems, like how they how they
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  distribute their stuff how the office work.
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  I love Working on systems and patterns of making it easier and
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  quicker. So I did that for a little bit
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  working from home. But then I also worked remotely
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  for fixing computers in the u.s. Actually doing Coca-Cola
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  machine. So when you go to a vending
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  machine at having a touchscreen on it, it's just going to break.
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  So I used to fix those remotely from a office in the UK at night
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  when nobody was around in the office.
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  The whites were offered just sit there and I loved it we're gonna
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  problem is it didn't work with my ADHD because my mood would
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  like super dip and then also an antidepressant and then the
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  other persons were no good. So I have to kind of come out
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  that and so my doctor's kind of said well, you can't work more
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  than like, you know certain amount of hours a week and then
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  you try and find an employee is going to fight for the two days
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  and it did work a little bit when I was doing University.
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  I was able to kind of site hustle work with an office for
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  like a day or two, but it's different it is difficult.
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  And I know that that's common for people on the spectrum is I
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  can't commit to a full-time job at the same time.
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  Like I want to be productive. So what do you do?
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  It's nuts. I'm not telling you what the
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  worst part about it. Before I had YouTube right when
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  I was like between like what would how I do my life?
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  I had this super meltdown. So I'm in an office and they
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  were changing the office around the changing the seat the office
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  around and lay out the stuff. I had a massive not on the
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  office and then I have this like Third Reich as well as I think
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  you know what I'm going to do. I can't look enough this I want
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  to learn many and like I said, I want to be productive want to
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  make stuff. Like how am I gonna have it?
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  I was losing this the creative passion for something that I
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  have nothing but you when you two came along and I was like,
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  this is my thing. Like a since and I just like
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  proximity to the roof it's nuts. And because the beauty of is I
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  do it for my home office and I sat down I do always lose at
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  home. I work with Brands and I get to
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  email them a doctor looking face to face.
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  I spoke with people so I don't have to look in their eyes.
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  It's dope. Okay.
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  So do you have any any things that you still struggle with
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  work-wise or now that you're in like a good profession for you
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  or you like kind of good? I would say that I'm this is the
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  best professional I could probably have loan one issue is
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  meeting with people. Looking in VidCon like we are
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  now the issue I have is that you have to meet new people have to
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  try and learn keep up with small talk and I have a lot to me to
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  kind of like, you know assist you with that and then you've
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  got to shake these hands and you're going to try and make as
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  much eye contact as possible. So they don't feel like you're
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  being rude because of the first time they're meeting you.
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  I want to talk a really good impression.
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  That was extremely fun guys, but it did tell them that I have
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  aspirations. So at the biggest thing is
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  meeting with Browns on for them to understand that you have
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  neuro-diverse issues like that that that's the biggest
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  challenges is working with people who Understand that which
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  is what we're channels all about, which is crazy.
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  Yeah, that seems weird. It seems like if you need with a
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  brand they would naturally understand that well some rounds
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  going to reach out like like like inbound stuff is they've
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  just come across your videos and seen your subscriber count and I
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  just want like a bunker sheets on this is looking at product
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  right? It's like get it we Define for
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  the outbound world where I go approaching grounds to say.
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  Hey, we should totally work together.
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  That's a bit different. They can understand then the
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  sometimes I get not only the companies who offer me to Kind
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  of like talks or speeches or consumer to do the educational
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  stuff. They're totally understanding
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  that's the reason they're asked me to go there.
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  So it's just like, it's Lizzie just like a small bronze of our
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  gadgets and gizmos. They don't understand the
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  condition mainly and everybody else is pretty cool.
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  Right? Okay, two more questions about
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  work. So our question is still about
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  work, but do you have any organizational issues?
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  That's a huge challenge for me like keeping up with all the in
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  boxes and making sure that I don't nothing falls through the
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  cracks is so hard. Okay, so my girlfriend is
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  Basically, like my organization keeper.
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  She helped me organize my calendars.
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  We have three counts in the house.
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  I would counter up his calendar in the living room.
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  And I have a calendar on my phone.
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  I can't they all sing together perfect.
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  She reminds me in prompting to make sure that everything that's
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  on my calendar has an alert on it so that I remember to doing
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  the the problem with the rest of the stuff is that I like you
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  said, it's messy it's all over the place.
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  It's an organized but I have a lot of to-do lists and I will I
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  use something called Wunderlist and they also use the notes on
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  the ice. Under the sink to my MacBook and
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  so as long as I have everything written down a list for Mariah
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  can go through it like a linear timeline, but it is very very
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  difficult. But my my advice would be to use
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  apps use Siri on your phone use the icon that you can invite
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  people into it. You can share the event of
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  people who can have you can attach bits to it.
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  Like I attach and maps for like the meetings.
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  I was going to VidCon and you can put application it has
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  everything you need. So I think that's like that's my
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  best advice is using apps. I did a video on this actually
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  about how I run my life. From apps and we'll be here.
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  How do you know when to turn it off?
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  Like you have a do you ever have trouble stopping work all the
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  time? I never stopped.
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  I mean like it's the most frustrating thing for the most
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  rewarding through the end of the day I get to work all the time.
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  I things I love doing and I'm passionate about and there's
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  nothing more rewarding than looking for something you're
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  passionate about love it. But the downside is you crash
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  you Las Vegas in them have a there's a point where you get to
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  choose and then everything just And it feels a lot like that.
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  Like II haven't had one. I've got a craft store a few
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  months. I'm okay, but I feel it's quite
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  a crush. I did a video on it because I
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  didn't know what to do and I was supposed to have a video about
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  day and I was like I can do so I just completely honest so I went
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  out and I tried to go for my morning run which I was trying
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  to and I my feet couldn't carry me.
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  It just stopped and then I have no motivation.
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  I just got on the couch and curled up in a ball and I just
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  sat there. No TV no nothing and just some
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  butter despair. There and it was the result of
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  the fact that I've been doing well tonight hopeful of stuff
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  and when I cleared everything and have nothing else lined up a
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  crashes Wheatley crash and so now I have to spread my workout
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  on the things that I do in the event of so, I have something to
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  kind of always do and all sounds weird, but that's the only way
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  to stop stop. Oh crashing and I know you might
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  sound like you're gonna just completely blown up I'd been out
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  if I knew there was like an indefinite ethnics replicate
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  Evans done on it's more of them nothing like I understand that
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  depression that actually happens a lot.
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  I mean, you know, most people understand that like after you
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  have I don't know a wedding or whatever like you've been
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  spending a year planning and then all of a sudden like
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  there's nothing to do you do fall into a little bit of a
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  depression and it's of course you burnt yourself out you're
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  exhausted to so that completely it's because you like engage
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  emotionally because you're passionate about it and then
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  when you when you've got no engagement emotionally,
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  especially who lost between them.
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  I'm thinking uh-oh and then you get this burst of energy and
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  stuff and you've got no way to directly So I found that like
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  when I have this issue I trying to make videos I try and make
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  music or I try and think of something like awesome.
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  I could make like I don't know. I just it's helpful to it's kind
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  of like monkey bars. You want to know that there's
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  another Monkey Bar in front of you to cook to grab onto and I
• 18:36
  know Edward Edwards talked about this to like he has a hard time
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  finishing a project if he doesn't have something else
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  lined up, so it's interesting. Yeah, no and it's super fun and
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  not people speak to have the same issues, especially with
• 18:48
  like on It's also always at this is relatable.
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  And then they at least I was almost totally freak.
• 18:54
  No, no, not at all. But you know what?
• 18:57
  I want to comment on that for a second because the fact that
• 19:00
  either of us have internalized the idea that were weird or a
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  freak in some way when it's actually completely typical for
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  what we struggle with for our conditions.
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  It's interesting that we still can sometimes use that language.
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  Yeah. I'm so used to it see and I
• 19:14
  always get told off as a woman. I know who's got some news
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  that's better syndrome and she always has reached.
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  Stop saying that you weird and what sorry, I was just um
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  apologizing. I'm like, yeah you internalize
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  it. I know, you know, I know on the
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  way to get diagnosed Edward was like look, I'm just lazy but you
• 19:30
  know you internalize these I did it when I was on my second.
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  I was like sweat dripping off of eating all these weirdos ask me
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  questions. I was like, oh my God, like I
• 19:38
  want to go home like which is horrible like these people
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  diving into your life. I it's the worst like this and
• 19:45
  the reason why this is interesting when I meet
• 19:47
  specialist with autism Freeze a freeze up at all to do because
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  they know more about who I am that I do in terms of like how I
• 19:54
  am cost medical. Clinically.
• 19:56
  This isn't that nuts nuts feeling like also but I didn't
• 20:00
  even think about that old. Were you when you're diagnosed.
• 20:02
  So I was diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome specifically
• 20:05
  when I was 26, which is like but I thought I would say I have a
• 20:10
  serious diagnosis fire like dyslexia are like was near me
• 20:13
  and like a depression anxiety and phobia like all these Things
• 20:19
  like over shyness. Like I don't know personality
• 20:23
  disorder may be as well 50 years and years and years because the
• 20:26
  appointment of like, oh, this is bizarre foods.
• 20:31
  So my and then I went for a proper I went to a specialist in
• 20:33
  HD and they were like, oh that's supposed to be an idiot.
• 20:37
  He's like an Asperger's Syndrome is technically an outdated term
• 20:40
  but you still identify as having Asperger's Syndrome because
• 20:42
  that's how you were diagnosed. Yeah.
• 20:44
  I mean like those that are closest to my heart because I
• 20:48
  don't feel like Is anything wrong with in Asperger syndrome?
• 20:50
  I feel like I'm proud to say I was pretty soon but you know,
• 20:53
  it's it's around. I think it's a personal choice
• 20:55
  as well. And I don't judge anybody for
• 20:56
  using a different term. Everyone must really important
• 20:59
  question. What do you do for downtime?
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  What do you do to relax? I mean like I find relaxing
• 21:04
  super difficult because like I always want to be doing
• 21:07
  something so my therapist and my girlfriend like once you what
• 21:11
  you enjoy what do you do when you're not wanting to work and I
• 21:13
  like I like two things right? I love learning about like crazy
• 21:18
  stuff maybe wash and dry. Entry on the Civil War could be
• 21:20
  watching a documentary on the prohibition of alcohol in
• 21:22
  America and like this kind of stuff really gets me going.
• 21:26
  So I just love learning about it.
• 21:27
  But then the other thing I do maybe I'll watch a video
• 21:31
  teaching me how to code on a website or maybe a video
• 21:34
  teaching you how to make a certain type of computer or
• 21:37
  something that I can find us educational because to me my
• 21:40
  downtime is learning stuff. So I love to learn so I relax by
• 21:44
  learning stuff and it might sound really weird people but I
• 21:48
  mean recently Like I like learning about science as well.
• 21:50
  So because after my degree, I was like, oh not learning
• 21:53
  anything. So I still watch videos of
• 21:55
  chemistry, which is really sad, but I love it.
• 21:58
  I get it. I mean, I do the same thing I'm
• 22:00
  learning and to me to me relaxing is learning something
• 22:02
  that I don't have to learn like nobody's telling me you have to
• 22:05
  study this for tests or whatever.
• 22:07
  Like I just fall down the Wikipedia or something.
• 22:09
  Yeah, that's like the thing is like it's nobody's fault me to
• 22:14
  do so, you're going to enjoy what you're learning is.
• 22:16
  It's just something fun ahead of it.
• 22:18
  Did you ever Like you need to recharge like you need to like
• 22:20
  you need a break from input. I mean yes through sensory input
• 22:26
  but never through like beta um, like I might like learning.
• 22:31
  I don't know. I always feel like my brain has
• 22:33
  to have to learn things to just keep it at like a stable level
• 22:37
  like a you know, right it's like critical mass or if it drops
• 22:41
  below depression has to stay at this level and topping it up
• 22:43
  with with educational content is how it is up socially, I can't
• 22:48
  explain why You wouldn't enjoy like a walk in a peaceful
• 22:51
  garden. Well, I do but short-lived or
• 22:55
  like a like at I'll maybe I don't know.
• 22:59
  I don't like golf or huge huge tax look like there's my
• 23:01
  girlfriend a family love coffee huge hexagon are fake after
• 23:04
  about 45 minutes after meat done.
• 23:06
  Right? I have to be doing something
• 23:08
  super productive or another and I love to like I love going
• 23:12
  running. I love like meditation and
• 23:14
  things like that, but the problem with it is that I have
• 23:17
  to do it control times like so Run, I do like 2 and 1/2 miles
• 23:20
  It's gotta be done within like 25 to 30 minutes and then I'll
• 23:23
  like meditate for a little bit. But then the rest of have to be
• 23:26
  productive. I don't know why it's like this
• 23:28
  really amazing. Is it that he's like going for a
• 23:31
  run and meditating is not productive enough for me your
• 23:34
  machine. Oh my God, I just feel like
• 23:36
  those that those things those things meet.
• 23:37
  I like life routine. So I just do those things every
• 23:40
  day. Not that that's been and then on
• 23:41
  to the good stuff with Congress because for me it is about it's
• 23:45
  about progress that you could feel like I'm like, I'm moving
• 23:47
  forward. Yeah.
• 23:48
  Yes. Absolutely.
• 23:49
  I have this like thing with like you'll never reach the state of
• 23:52
  perfect, but you always have to always strive for it because if
• 23:55
  you don't like I say if you don't like increase your just a
• 23:58
  client and the client is looking thick and you'll just do my
• 24:01
  people get too complacent when people get complacent they
• 24:03
  started the client finest. Nope.