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Celebrations & Heartbreak of the Season, Current Events & More · Live! with Fefe and Freddy

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  None. Hello, good evening.
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  I can't hear Felicia, but that's OK.
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  I'll quite well she figures that out.
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  Welcome to season 14, episode 9 of Live with Fifi and Freddie.
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  Welcome back to your Wednesday night conversation.
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  I, of course, am not Felicia, I am Freddie.
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  Felicia is over there, looking very wintry and yet silent.
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  No idea why we can't hear you, but that's, that's why I'm like,
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  I'm making sure it's not me. It's not I can hear other
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  things. So we're at least it's no, it's
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  not me. So today we're going to be
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  talking about things like heartbreak and devastation, echo
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  from overseas and locally clean water, coastlines and other bits
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  of good news. And for my tip tonight, we're
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  going to be talking a little bit about keeping busy and why we
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  keep ourselves busy because that's an important thing to
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  look at. All right, let's see.
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  I think we already asked that question, so I'm going to go
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  ahead and skip it. You can get exclusive content on
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  our Patreon at patreon.com/let's have a fee.
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  Fee. No it isn't patreon.com/live
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  with Fifi and Freddie. I don't know where the fuck my
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  mind went as close enough. It's fine, I was close.
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  From patreon.com/live with Fifi and Freddie We would like to
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  thank our current patrons who we appreciate so much Bill,
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  You can get all sorts of, you know, oh, there she is.
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  Look at that. You know, when in doubt, press
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  the button on the mic. That would.
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  Happen I didn't know that it had its own separate oh mute but but
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  anyway, happy Wednesday. How the hell is everyone?
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  And of course, a huge shout out to Wigs of a Kind for supporting
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  us this season. This is obviously not a Wigs of
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  a Kind wig. It could be I.
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  Mean look toward the front, not the back.
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  Right. We don't.
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  I had a hell of a time trying to brush it out, so I gave up on
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  the back part of it. I'm like, as long as the front
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  is brushed out, we're fine. You.
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  Sound like me? Ignore the rest of it.
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  Ignore the Just ignore the rat's nest behind me.
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  It's fine. It's OK, It's OK.
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  Oh wow. And I had not asked.
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  I don't think I've asked the holiday tradition that people
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  look forward to. I think I've asked other things
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  like what what's your like, favorite meal or whatever.
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  But tradition could be like like some people get Chinese food on
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  Christmas or. I used to get Chinese food on
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  Christmas and then I decided to get with somebody whose child
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  has a birthday on Christmas. So now we do whatever the fuck
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  he wants to do on Christmas and it's the same thing and I don't
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  get my Chinese food. And she didn't name him Jesus.
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  She didn't. Well, technically she didn't
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  name him at all. Oh, renaming is a thing too.
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  Jesus. So I, I don't know that I
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  necessarily have like a favorite holiday.
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  I mean, I think Friendsgiving is probably as far as the holidays
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  go, probably like my favorite tradition that we've started.
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  We also of the last couple years have gone down to Tucson to like
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  walk around Winter Haven. So that's been what's that fun
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  to do the last couple years. So I don't know.
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  Those are probably like Winter Haven is like this whole
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  community that they go all out. Like they like almost every
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  house decorates. They'll do like wagon rides and
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  stuff all around it. There's like little vendors
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  selling like popcorn and hot chocolate and stuff.
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  Yeah, it's super fun. It's like a total.
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  It's a Tucson tradition. I did it for years while I lived
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  down there. And then whenever I could during
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  the holidays when I moved up to Phoenix, I would go back down.
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  So it's cute. It's fun.
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  You go down, have dinner and then go walk around Winter Haven
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  when it gets dark. OK, something new.
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  I did not know that, you know, How was your weekend?
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  I had to think about it and I couldn't remember what I.
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  Put some starters on there. Yeah, that's pretty much all I
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  did. Thursday was sex trivia night
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  over at Gracie's. That's always a good time
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  packed. House both times.
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  Both games packed house, although people were definitely
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  trying to like, argue semantics this time around.
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  Yeah, like. No.
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  Very technical. Right, trying to like, argue
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  semantics and be like, well, here are three options that I
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  gave you as far as answers, and one of them must be right?
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  Like no, no, no, that's not how that works.
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  Well, in particular those ladies that were very, I don't know
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  what the word is, very adamant about their answers and looking
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  at me like I was going to be the tiebreaker.
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  I was like we put the answers on the screen for a reason.
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  Right, like the. Oh what?
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  What was it? A grain of salt?
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  Is a a form? Of a grain of sand, right?
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  Like, you know, we're like, 'cause depending on the beach,
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  grains of sand can be different sizes.
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  So you can't just say a grain of sand.
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  Although the six inch ovum was probably one of my favorite
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  answers of the evening. That sounds painful.
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  But like you, no, like give me an actual measurement like you,
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  you, you know, 'cause like I've been on, on sand, like beaches
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  where the grand is actually like, it's not as fine a grain.
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  So what sand are we talking about?
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  Are we talking about black sand, white sand?
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  Are we talking about like, so no, you can't just say a grain
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  of sand. That's not how that works.
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  Like there's an actual like measurement for it.
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  Is that like people that measure feet and we all have different
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  size feet? Right.
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  Like, yeah, you know, and you can't be like, what was the
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  other one? Oh, the 2 letters from a mental
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  health professional for trans folks to be able to get there,
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  they're like, well, a doctor's note and a referral.
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  No, not the same thing. Not the same thing.
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  You can't just get any random doctor's note and a referral is
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  not like no, there's two very specific things.
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  Stop trying to. Argue.
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  Like that's not, it's not the same, yeah.
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  Literally you had to go through this process so.
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  Right. I'm like stop, stop trying to
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  argue semantics like there are right, like the answers are
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  either right or they are wrong and yours are wrong.
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  So no. So that was always that.
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  I mean, it was fun, it was a it was a good evening.
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  Everybody seemed to enjoy themselves and you know, people
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  obviously. I enjoyed the coworkers that
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  were out for an evening. Accountants, accountants, that's
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  what they want. And what a way to get to know
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  your. And find out how much they did
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  not know that was. Except for I'm assuming the
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  straight guy I was like got the gaping 1.
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  They got that one, but they were I think they were also one of
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  the ones that had like the six inch ovum.
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  So I. Was like why do you know gaping
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  and. There were a couple of things
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  that I was like, oh, look at you.
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  OK, They didn't get the word enema right, but they did get
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  the brand. Yeah, I was.
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  Like I was like, OK, alright. Then Sunday I did a holiday
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  themed drag story hour at Brick Road with Sassy.
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  That was fun. I like it when like folks come
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  out that haven't been out in a while and like they came out and
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  they were very excited to see me there.
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  I've they were like, we keep hoping that every, you know, we
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  catch you the Leno next time. So I was like, yay, it was cute.
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  It was a fun little story hour. I got to read one that I was not
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  familiar with. Santa Claus CLAWS, dinosaurs.
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  It was super cute. It was super cute.
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  It was fun. I'm.
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  Gonna have to get. That sassy sassy red one where I
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  actually learned something new. Sassy read a book called I think
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  it was Animals in Winter and it was like what different animals
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  do to like get ready for the winter.
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  Some do this, some hibernate, whatever, blah blah.
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  The pika, which is like a little rodent looking thing, we'll take
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  grass and like lay it out on rocks and like dry the grass and
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  then take the grass and like hide it under the rocks and then
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  eat the grass all winter. That's so smart.
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  I didn't know they did that. So that was fun.
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  But it was, it was good. It was cute.
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  I came home, I took a nap, got up.
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  We attempted to finish the decorating outside.
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  How? Did that go?
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  Well it started fine. So my partner and I actually got
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  Jesus these. Like under the eaves of wigs of.
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  The kind these under the eaves lights that are like permanent,
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  you're supposed to like put them up and they stay there so you
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  can just change them for the seasons or whatever, right?
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  And it's 200 feet. So these things really like they
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  wrap around the entire house. So we're like, all right, let's
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  let's figure out how we're going to do this.
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  So we plug them in in the back and then they would wrap around
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  the side down where our bedroom is and then around the front and
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  then all the way around the back again.
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  So easy peasy, right? So when we start doing it and my
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  my partner is doing it and she's like, I got this.
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  If I fall off the ladder, I'll just yell.
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  I'm like that's fine, just text me or something I'll go work on.
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  Francis. And hi, Francis.
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  And so we started started working on that and it was a
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  pain in the ass first of all. But then she's like, you know
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  what? Putting up lights anyway.
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  So right, and she's like, you know what, I'm gonna try and
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  work smarter, not harder. And I'm gonna get the staple
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  gun. And because the way that they
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  are like you could actually staple like, you know it, it
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  would work. So works fine.
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  We get all the way down the side of the house, start going around
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  the front of the house. We get to about where the door
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  is and we're about to go over like that, little like the, the,
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  the, the overhang right there. And then all of a sudden I hear
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  shit. I'm like, oh for fuck's sake,
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  what happened? She had stapled through the
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  light and everything from that light on completely fucked up.
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  Won't work. So now we have like 70 something
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  feet that's up and then the rest of it, like 100 and something
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  feet are just, we don't know what the fuck to do with it.
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  I'm like if we could find somebody that's good with
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  electrical stuff, we might be able to cut that one light out
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  and splice them together. But that is not me.
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  So if anybody out there is good with electrical shit and wants
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  to come over and see if you can splice this shit together so we
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  don't end up just because otherwise we're going to have to
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  go around and take down all the lights.
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  You are. And then have to like and then.
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  You're going to have to buy new ones.
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  I'm so, it's so annoying, so fucking annoying.
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  And we, we just, we were just like, fuck it, we're just, you
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  know, And then we, we put, we put some like little lights in
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  the little like tree with the yellow flowers that's in the
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  front yard. Hi, Marissa.
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  And set up some more stuff like out out front and then go to
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  plug it in. And.
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  Then again, actually, no, this was.
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  This was, again, this was not me.
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  My partner goes to plug it in on the on the outlet that's out
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  front and it was working fine and then all of a sudden boof
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  all the shit out there goes dark.
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  No way. And we're like, OK, maybe we
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  blew a fuse. So I go back to look and see if
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  we blew a fuse. Nothing looks like it's blown.
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  Thank you, Francis. And come back out and it's one
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  of those GFC ones where you have the little like breaker in the
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  thing. So I'm like, we're trying to
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  push it and reset it and it's not working.
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  So now we have to replace the outlet.
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  So yeah, we basically. At this point I was.
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  Like just like God damn it. So fucking annoying, so fucking
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  annoying. And now we're like a week away
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  from Christmas and it's like, OK, well whatever, we'll just
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  leave it as it is and deal with just the next year, like go.
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  To the clearance for Christmas next year.
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  Yeah, but that doesn't do me any good with the outlet that needs
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  to be. Oh, I was.
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  I was focused on. I could fix is.
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  And the lights, yeah, we, that's actually what we did.
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  We got these lights at the Amazon like box store.
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  They were really fucking cheap and like, they're, they're
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  great. They would have worked great,
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  except now they can't. And now we either have to figure
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  out whether we can splice them together or we have to go around
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  and undo all of it. And I'm like for.
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  Fuck sake, like you guys are having so much fun over there.
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  So that was super fun. How was your weekend?
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  I'm not as adventurous as yours. I can tell you that.
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  I did decorate on Thursday because I will tell you some
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  people are like, oh, take your time.
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  You know, the holidays. It's blah, blah, blah.
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  It's all about the joy, blah, blah.
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  I was getting pressure from my kids to decorate.
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  And so yeah, that was it's kind of my fault because done right
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  now and I had not. And so I and then so we have 3
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  trees and that took afternoon because I have been cleaning out
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  my drag room. I had to put all the drug that
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  was out of my room in the living room in here and so decorated 3
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  trees and then went to sex trivia.
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  I was tired, let's say I was very tired and then came I don't
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  think we did anything on Saturday.
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  I have the hardest time remembering.
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  This is why I like start taking pictures at events so that I can
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  like scroll through my phone. Oh the, the, the brain fog is
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  real right now for me. I am struggling with like with
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  basic recall and shit and it's really driving me nuts.
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  Really driving me nuts. I just feel like there's a lot
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  going on and I'm trying to remember it all, but worthy of
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  what you guys want to hear. I missed the story hour.
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  We missed the story hour 'cause I was just moving so slow and
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  then, but we were supposed to go to the story hour and then go to
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  Bluey. Missed the story hour but went
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  to Bluey at Bookmans in Phoenix. It turns out it's like the third
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  year that they've been doing it. And so hi Laura.
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  And kids were so excited to see Bluey and Bingo so and even gave
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  a hug to each of them. Usually one of them is afraid of
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  like Santa Claus and the Bunny. And so this was to us as she was
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  just like, Oh my gosh. And then hugged both of them.
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  So and Sprouts was trying to make money off of the people
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  that were standing in the crowd, which the crowd wrapped all the
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  way around the building as. Fucking like inflatable bluey
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  things. Why the fuck why they're not?
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  Inflatable, these are like legit costings, but it's for the kids,
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  for the kids. So at this time of year, the
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  kids get so antsy. Anything is whatever.
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  And then on Monday we went to a Christmas pageant after hearing
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  the song rehearse over and over. And now I know what my family
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  goes through and over out of this room.
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  See full circle moment. I will listen on headphones from
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  now on because Yep, rocking around the Christmas tree.
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  Yeah, but I feel like that there's a big difference between
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  like, you know, listening to the child.
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  Well, the child had to practice singing it and.
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  Right. And that's what I'm saying.
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  I feel like there's a big difference between listening to
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  that over and over again. Then you know, just.
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  I don't sing a lot. Well, sometimes I do, but
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  depending on the song. But yeah, that was that was fun.
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  That was fun. I have to send you the
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  recording. It's very.
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  Thank you I'll. I'll include you on this
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  exclusive starting. I know you're gonna want to see
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  this. You know I.
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  Can't wait. I'm I am very you're looking.
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  For it on Amazon Prime. I saw you looking for it.
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  But let's get into the tip, shall we?
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  Let's. OK, so my tip tonight is for a
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  variety of reasons, It it, it stems from various conversations
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  with people, conversations that we've my partner and I have had
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  conversations that we've had with the kids.
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  Like there's a a few contributing factors to this
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  this evening and. Thank you everyone.
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  Right. And it's, I think it's
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  especially kind of poignant like around this time when people are
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  busy anyway, or at least they try to be busy or they want to
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  be busy or they think they want to be busy.
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  So, so we're going to talk about keeping busy and whether it's
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  masking or fulfilling, because we we all know those folks and
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  maybe we've even been those folks sometimes who always seem
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  to be busy And not just the like I have a busy weekend ahead,
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  kind of busy, but the never home, no real free time, you
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  know, ships passing in the night kind of busy and you're welcome.
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  Like there Like I, I have the occasional, you know, busy
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  weekend, sometimes the occasional busy week.
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  If they're like kid things happening, like if, if you know,
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  if the youngest has, you know, a concert or a theater thing or a
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  play or whatever. But in general, my life is
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  actually pretty chill, like outside of like running errands
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  in the usual life shit like I really like as far as like my
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  schedule, like my calendar isn't crazy.
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  It really isn't. I choose what I want to do, when
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  to do it and who to do it with. And I'm actually pretty picky
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  about all of those things. Like you won't find me just
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  saying yes to all the things or you know, whatever.
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  So on the flip side of that, I see so many people and there's
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  people that are, they're not really in, in our, well, I guess
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  some of them are in our bubble, but like there are people that
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  are kind of in our. Bubble and that are kind of a
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  bubble adjacent bubble. Yes.
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  But again, these are conversations that we've had
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  with the kids. So it's people that they
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  sometimes it's like some of them are people that they sometimes
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  interact with, but these people who stay busy, like they, they
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  stay so, so busy that they don't even have time for themselves or
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  their partners or their kids or whatever.
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  Like they have their day job, then they have like whatever
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  side hustles they have. And then maybe they're taking
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  classes on top of it or like they have, you know, a day job
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  plus their side hustles and then they're performing like 4 nights
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  a week. Like it, they, they, they and if
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  and my partner watches this, which she may not be watching
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  tonight because she is not home at the moment, but if she
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  watches it, she'll know who I'm talking about specifically.
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  Especially if we mentioned that we talked about it with the
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  kids. But it's like what?
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  What is your motivation for being so damn busy that nobody
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  sees you, your family doesn't see you?
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  Like who's that benefiting? Who's that benefiting?
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  And if you are so busy that you feel like you have to announce
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  on social media that you need to take sometimes for like take
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  some time for yourself like, like is that is it necessary?
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  Like do do you really think like?
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  I would say that I have noticed that, not people that I know
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  regularly, but I know that some celebrities, some main
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  mainstream like drag performers have kind of like overbooked
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  themselves lately and, or, and or they got to a point where
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  their body just said, OK, you have 27 tour dates and 15 days,
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  but the body says no. That's very, and I mean, we, we
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  even see it locally where people aren't paying attention to shit
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  and they end up double booking and triple booking.
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  And then they have to try and either try to figure out how
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  they get from 1 gig to another or they have to cancel.
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  And it's like, OK, but I know you have a calendar.
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  So you know, like, oh, look, she's watching, but it's like,
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  I, I like I know you have a calendar.
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  So how did you end up double booking yourself?
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  Like how do you end up triple booking yourself when you know
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  you have these things that are happening?
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  Like, I don't, I don't know. But it's like like being busy is
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  fine, but you're busy in order to either hide issues or because
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  you don't want to have to deal with stuff happening in your
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  life. Like that's a problem.
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  And that happens way too often. Way too often.
• 25:58
  I think we talked about this before kind of because I was a
• 26:02
  victim of said busyness. Now I'm a little more cautious
• 26:11
  to say and some kind of realization came over me that
• 26:17
  like, your employer is going to like replace you when you die.
• 26:24
  Your employer doesn't give a fuck.
• 26:26
  As soon as you die they're going to have a a wreck out there to
• 26:28
  replace you. Like they they're not going to
• 26:30
  care. The clients I work for, if I
• 26:34
  pass away or whatever, they'll go to somebody else, right?
• 26:39
  Or they're nobody's really going to.
• 26:40
  Do things. So on the nights like I feel
• 26:44
  tired, I'm like, could this wait?
• 26:48
  Will it wait? Right, yes, of course things
• 26:54
  happen but you know if it's general or I'm ahead of
• 27:00
  schedule, then I generally, especially more recently than
• 27:07
  not, I will go to bed at like 9:00 'cause my.
• 27:11
  Body. I mean, that's and that's 8, I
• 27:14
  think for a lot of people and I think both you and I have done
• 27:17
  this. I know I have, but being busy is
• 27:21
  a way to mask things like depression, anxiety, ADHD
• 27:28
  problems at home, etcetera. Like I've totally done it.
• 27:31
  Like I've had, you know, been in shitty relationships and I will
• 27:35
  do everything I possibly can to be busy and out of the house
• 27:38
  because it's easier to be busy and out of the house than it is
• 27:41
  to be home and deal with the bullshit.
• 27:43
  Not the longest seasons, I'm just.
• 27:46
  Kidding, right. Like, you know, like, you know,
• 27:51
  my, we, we, we, we, it's, it's easier sometimes to just be busy
• 27:58
  than to deal with stuff, you know, And you know, I've, I've,
• 28:05
  you know, if you, in the past, it's been really easy for me to
• 28:08
  just kind of throw myself into drag and then I don't have to
• 28:12
  deal with shit. And if I do it well enough, no
• 28:16
  one really knows that I'm going through stuff.
• 28:18
  They're just like, oh look, Freddy's really getting out
• 28:20
  there. They don't know that things are
• 28:23
  a fucking mess. Like they don't know that, you
• 28:26
  know, I'm depressed and miserable.
• 28:28
  Even though a lot of times drag was sort of the catalyst for
• 28:34
  being miserable in a lot of ways, but it was still easier
• 28:38
  for me to just throw myself into it 'cause it was still easier
• 28:42
  than being at home, you know? And kind of a, you know,
• 28:46
  adjacent to that, you have the folks that do things, you know,
• 28:50
  for the community, but not necessarily for the good that it
• 28:56
  does, but for the pat on the back for the recognition.
• 29:02
  And they like the optics. They like being seen.
• 29:06
  And they have to announce every time they do something in the
• 29:09
  community rather than just doing it for the sake of doing it.
• 29:11
  And that almost goes along with the same issue because you're
• 29:15
  doing all these things so that you can get that validation.
• 29:21
  And it's not a matter of, you know, it's like the the people
• 29:26
  that go out and, and, you know, feed the homeless or whatever,
• 29:29
  but they have to have their cell phones on them.
• 29:31
  Let's get a video of this, you know, and it's like you don't,
• 29:37
  you know, the, it's, there's all the.
• 29:40
  Torn between that. I feel like sometimes people do
• 29:45
  need to post more about being in the community because the trash,
• 29:50
  the slop as the word of the year is for one of the dictionaries
• 29:59
  is of a nature that we're not focused on each other.
• 30:05
  So I don't mind seeing the community things.
• 30:07
  It's when I see the community things that look like first and
• 30:12
  foremost, I will say that I don't like in poor taste when
• 30:16
  people take pictures with those that are that they're serving.
• 30:21
  Right. To make it look like.
• 30:25
  Right. Like when celebrities serve at
• 30:27
  soup kitchens. I don't want to see a video of
• 30:29
  you serving at the soup kitchen. You can take a picture in front
• 30:32
  of the building if you want to, but don't no no.
• 30:37
  Just just do it. Just do it for the sake of doing
• 30:40
  it. Not because you need that, that
• 30:42
  pat on the back, not because you need that extra validation, not
• 30:45
  because you need, you know what I mean?
• 30:47
  Like just do it because it's the right thing to do.
• 30:51
  That as an entertainer, if I'm out and about serving the
• 30:55
  community, I do it more of we got to disrupt this timeline and
• 31:01
  you should you should know that you're supporting somebody
• 31:04
  that's helping the community or. Right.
• 31:06
  And there I think there's a there's a line though between
• 31:09
  like, you know, hey, you know, we're doing this thing, you
• 31:14
  know, come out and, you know, trying to encourage people to
• 31:16
  come out and do it. And then there's the people that
• 31:18
  just seem to do it and can't ever just do it.
• 31:24
  Like there is stuff that I do that I don't, I don't say
• 31:26
  anything about because it, it's not necessary.
• 31:30
  You know what I mean? Like, I don't have to announce
• 31:32
  every time I do something for the community.
• 31:34
  I don't have to announce every time I go out.
• 31:35
  And you know what I mean? It's like you can, you can do
• 31:41
  it. There's a way to do it without
• 31:43
  making it look contrived, without making it look like
• 31:46
  you're doing it for, you know, the likes of the pat on the back
• 31:49
  or the recognition or the, you know what I mean?
• 31:51
  Like there's and you know, I'm, I'm sort of adjacent to that.
• 31:58
  So like there's all these different sort of things that I
• 32:01
  think people tend to do that I think is are definitely part of
• 32:08
  either masking or trying or almost like an avoidant type of
• 32:12
  thing. You've got the people that are
• 32:14
  excessively busy, right? You got the people that are
• 32:18
  always doing stuff for the community, but you know what I
• 32:24
  mean? And then you've got the people
• 32:26
  that are like the serial monogamous.
• 32:28
  They are in a new relationship every other week without giving
• 32:32
  themselves time to like vet anyone new, like not quite a
• 32:37
  vine swinger, like they don't necessarily have a hold of the
• 32:39
  one before they let go of the other.
• 32:41
  But you serious folks. And right, but you see these
• 32:44
  folks that are like they're constantly in a a new
• 32:49
  relationship and they're always have their post about their new
• 32:52
  relationship, how great their new relationship is and it's.
• 32:55
  Love they. Are right and it's literally
• 32:57
  like every other week and then because the next week they're
• 32:59
  going to be like Oh my God, this person was a complete Dick head.
• 33:02
  This person was a complete douche.
• 33:03
  Oh my God, it's so over blah blah blah and it's like you
• 33:06
  didn't even give anything like you you just ended it with this
• 33:12
  person. You got in with this person,
• 33:16
  it's not even a relationship. This is like trying to find
• 33:20
  oxygen, but you're looking for it in the wrong places.
• 33:25
  So like when you break up from a relationship, this is going to
• 33:31
  get scientific. Let me bore you.
• 33:34
  But like hot air, whatever. And then but you don't let each
• 33:38
  other breathe or you don't let yourself breathe, then you're
• 33:42
  just, you just continue the hot air, you know, just and you're
• 33:47
  like, wait a minute, where's your oxygen?
• 33:50
  Like, did you give yourself time to breathe?
• 33:54
  No, they didn't. And it's like you, you've,
• 33:58
  you've got on like 1 date with somebody and all of a sudden
• 34:00
  you're in a relationship. It's like, OK, but you don't
• 34:04
  know the person well enough to be in a relationship.
• 34:06
  But are you? Also, do people vet other
• 34:12
  people? Like feel like sometimes people,
• 34:18
  you know what I'm talking about, like.
• 34:20
  Yeah, you. See, like the person and you're
• 34:22
  like, you know that they just went out with this person and
• 34:27
  like their business was out on the street.
• 34:29
  There are some people that I want to be like you literally
• 34:33
  just like got out of a relationship.
• 34:36
  Can you not jump into another one right now?
• 34:38
  Like this is what you've been doing for the last like year?
• 34:41
  How has this been working out for you?
• 34:42
  No, I mean like how they jump into like not so good people
• 34:46
  like well. That's and that's the thing,
• 34:49
  because they do that and then they'll like break up with them
• 34:51
  a week later and be like, I can't.
• 34:52
  Believe he broke my heart. Right.
• 34:54
  I'm like. Girl we saw this on the Internet
• 34:55
  like 3 weeks ago. Did you not get the other
• 35:01
  partner? They tagged them like
• 35:03
  religiously. Right.
• 35:05
  So I think that as we are sort of inching closer to the new
• 35:11
  Year and I'm not a big fan of like resolutions per SE.
• 35:16
  We set goals here. Set goals, intentions, whatever.
• 35:21
  But. Mantras.
• 35:22
  This might be, you know, a good time to really kind of take a
• 35:25
  good look at your life and what you do and who you do it with.
• 35:29
  You know, are you busy because you enjoy it and it is
• 35:34
  fulfilling and it is adding something to your life and to
• 35:40
  the lives of the people in your life?
• 35:44
  Or are you busy because you're avoiding other stuff?
• 35:49
  Now, I will say that I have noticed that some people will
• 35:53
  admit that they're single and they don't like being alone.
• 35:58
  Now if you admit that. Right.
• 36:02
  But there are ways that you can be single and not like being
• 36:05
  alone and be able to not jump from one relationship to
• 36:09
  another. And I use the term relationship
• 36:10
  very loosely. You know, are you, are you more
• 36:15
  concerned about the optics of you doing things for the
• 36:18
  community than it is what you're, than what you're
• 36:20
  actually doing? You know, are you jumping from
• 36:23
  relationship to relationship without coming up for air?
• 36:26
  Because the idea of being alone and sitting with yourself is
• 36:29
  scary. And that is a big thing, whether
• 36:32
  you're and that that goes with all of it.
• 36:34
  Like, are you, are you busy? Are you constantly throwing
• 36:37
  yourself into things? Because sitting with yourself
• 36:40
  isn't something that you want to do.
• 36:44
  And that can be a really, really hard realization for some folks
• 36:49
  where you have to like, you really have to sit back and be
• 36:56
  like, OK, I don't have time to think about what I'm doing.
• 37:01
  And I don't have time to process and reflect and, you know, and
• 37:06
  all of this. And that might be why I am
• 37:10
  constantly doing things. That's why I'm always running
• 37:14
  for another pageant. That's why I'm always, you know
• 37:16
  what I mean? Like there's always something
• 37:18
  people can't. Just they are the people that
• 37:20
  are career pageant runners, so. Like and, and if you like, if
• 37:23
  you watch them, it's like you, you literally just finished one.
• 37:27
  Like so your entire life is planning pageants.
• 37:32
  Everything that you do is like geared towards prepping
• 37:36
  pageants. There's nothing in between and
• 37:40
  like. Again, even outside of our
• 37:44
  community, there are people that continuously run for pageants
• 37:48
  like it's their career. Right.
• 37:53
  And again, while you're prepping for a pageant, cause we've both
• 37:56
  done it like it is time consuming, it is all consuming.
• 38:02
  You have to worry about everything.
• 38:04
  Even if you already have a package ready to go, it's never
• 38:08
  that ready to go because you can always be tweaking this and
• 38:14
  tweaking that. And then there's rehearsals and
• 38:16
  there's choreography and there's all these other things that go
• 38:18
  into it. Your life is nothing but
• 38:20
  prepping from one pageant to another pageant, which means
• 38:24
  that you really, if you think about it, I guarantee you that
• 38:27
  having a conversation with some of these people, that's all
• 38:29
  they're talking about. Oh, that's all they, that's all
• 38:33
  they know how to talk about. There's nothing else.
• 38:35
  It's like drag and pageantry. There's nothing else.
• 38:38
  They have no concept of being able to carry on a conversation
• 38:41
  about anything else and that for a while.
• 38:44
  Like if you are not able to like can you quit cold Turkey and not
• 38:51
  do a pageant for a year? A lot of.
• 38:53
  These folks can nearly 20 years almost.
• 38:58
  I know I. Feel like I know when I get
• 39:01
  asked all the time. Kids are expensive.
• 39:07
  I can't afford pageant. I have kids.
• 39:09
  Oh, God, tell me about it. But I think, I think that that
• 39:14
  is one of those things where you have to really take a look at
• 39:24
  how you spend your time and who you spend your time with.
• 39:29
  And it has been. There have been far too many
• 39:36
  reminders as of late that life is far too short.
• 39:41
  Including this week. Including this week.
• 39:43
  Oh. My God and made me cry.
• 39:48
  I it it like there are way way too many way too many things and
• 39:58
  if you know if you are staying so busy that you.
• 40:03
  Are neglecting your friends and family even though you think you
• 40:07
  maybe it's going to benefit them in some odd way?
• 40:10
  Who the fuck knows. Like I suggest stepping back and
• 40:16
  taking a good look at it because in the end the only thing when
• 40:21
  you are gone, the only thing that people are really going to
• 40:24
  have left are memories. So we said this a couple weeks
• 40:31
  ago, make the memories and if you are staying so busy that you
• 40:38
  can't do that then it may be time to re evaluate some stuff.
• 40:44
  So there you go indeed. Well, tis the season.
• 40:54
  I feel like a big part of my end of year is of course doing all
• 41:02
  the things Oh my God, you you need to save it for Halloween
• 41:08
  and make cobwebs format. Anyway, I'm I feel like I have
• 41:15
  worked on myself a little more this year.
• 41:18
  Come to some realizations this year.
• 41:22
  But I will say that we discussed this in the past and I was using
• 41:27
  the mask, the math, literal mask of drag to hide from myself and
• 41:34
  from others. So learning to live with is very
• 41:42
  hard. I will say the thing that got me
• 41:47
  out was having a hardcore therapist that was like, no, no,
• 41:51
  you, you need to like look at this.
• 41:54
  And the hardest thing is looking in the mirror at yourself.
• 42:01
  It's not just a song. It's literally the hardest thing
• 42:05
  that you can do. Sometimes even as a confident
• 42:09
  person, You just you just like. But we, we will go on and we're
• 42:20
  going to get into the news. So I tried to keep the news a
• 42:42
  Little Mix. I do have AW2.
• 42:45
  FI didn't write it on the show sheet, but something a little
• 42:52
  tragic happened. Not a little, a lot.
• 42:55
  Tragic Director Rob Reiner. Yeah, Rob Reiner was murdered
• 43:05
  alongside with his his wife by his son and discovered by his
• 43:11
  daughter. Now the part that is that is a
• 43:14
  WTF. That is a WTF Part 1.
• 43:18
  The Part 2 Everybody's out here mourning his work, his you know,
• 43:28
  his life, him as a person, the Obamas know him, you know all
• 43:35
  this stuff. Obama comes out with this
• 43:40
  beautiful, well written note. Of course he did.
• 43:43
  Jesus Christ. Dump truck decides to write a
• 43:50
  note on social media that says he probably was killed because
• 43:54
  he was anti Trump, right? I mean, talk about Trump
• 43:59
  Derangement syndrome. I feel like Trump Derangement
• 44:02
  syndrome shouldn't be the people that are anti Trump, they should
• 44:05
  be the people that are supportive of Trump.
• 44:10
  That only makes sense. I when, when we were, I think we
• 44:17
  were on the couch when we were kind of watching the whole Rob
• 44:20
  Reiner thing unfold. And I, it was one of those
• 44:26
  things that it was like, what the fuck?
• 44:28
  Like it was, it was obvious when, when it was said, you
• 44:31
  know, they were found, you know, in, in their house or whatever.
• 44:35
  It was like, what the fuck? And then it was like, he's
• 44:38
  responsible for some of like. Some epic moments.
• 44:42
  That like my my some I have some core core memories around like
• 44:49
  The Princess Bride, When Harry Met Sally.
• 44:52
  Like, those are two of my favorite movies.
• 44:57
  And I was like, what? Like.
• 45:04
  Yeah. It this is this the is crazy.
• 45:09
  It's crazy like. And the crazier part is that we
• 45:13
  don't have a leader that is compassionate enough to.
• 45:18
  That I've I've. I don't even I can't I it's just
• 45:22
  not even surprising anymore. It's like it's.
• 45:24
  Just it's just not. Like.
• 45:26
  Dirty, it felt sleazy, it felt like slop.
• 45:31
  Well what what I hope will happen at some point is the
• 45:36
  history books will print things like his response to stuff and
• 45:43
  his random word salad bullshit in the history books as proof of
• 45:51
  what a can paste the fucking moron.
• 45:55
  And put it in the book please. Right.
• 45:57
  Like I have a feeling that those things will happen because and
• 46:01
  the stuff that the White House has been posting, like I have a
• 46:05
  feeling that like talk about what the fuck?
• 46:07
  Like I don't. Even like I looked at those but
• 46:11
  I cannot even bring myself to bring them to the show.
• 46:13
  I I don't. I don't oh, oh, I I have AI have
• 46:17
  a WTF real quick. Yeah.
• 46:19
  So did you see the the all the Vanity Fair pictures of all the
• 46:24
  white? No, I miss Oh my.
• 46:28
  God, they did them dirty, but I love it.
• 46:34
  Should we look? Because you you should so.
• 46:38
  And this is this is. Not about Vanity Fair, White
• 46:41
  House. Yeah, this is not about like
• 46:44
  body shaming or anything like that, but what they did was they
• 46:48
  took a lot of close-ups of people and did not retouch that
• 46:52
  right. So what's her name?
• 46:56
  Cut through. Like God, what the hell is her
• 47:01
  name? Why is my brain press secretary?
• 47:05
  She is 282028. I believe she's 28.
• 47:11
  She's not even 30 and with all of these people.
• 47:15
  I think you saw somebody commenting on this.
• 47:17
  Right. Like, Oh my God, hate ages.
• 47:20
  You hate turns you into a fucking hag.
• 47:26
  And it's like you can see all the lines in her face.
• 47:29
  You can see the marks from the lip fillers.
• 47:32
  You eat. Yeah, Yep.
• 47:35
  She looks like somebody's mother.
• 47:37
  Yep, I'm like, this is what happens when you are so full of
• 47:41
  hate and ignorance that like all of them, all of them look the
• 47:45
  same if you look at them even like every.
• 47:48
  Single, I was living for somebody was like, hey, so if
• 47:53
  you actually supported gay people and queer and trans
• 47:57
  people, we probably would have done this right, 'cause like
• 48:01
  your makeup, like her makeup is done not correctly, especially
• 48:07
  that contour on her nose. I did see this and somebody was
• 48:12
  like, especially those needle marks on the top of your lips.
• 48:17
  If you want to full your lips, We know people.
• 48:20
  Like they they with no retouching, like you are not
• 48:24
  even 30 and you look like hell. And that is what happens when
• 48:30
  you are so full of just hate and ignorance and I.
• 48:37
  Don't even want to show them. No, don't.
• 48:40
  But it's very. Well, about my.
• 48:42
  Showing. But yeah, it's like, oh girl,
• 48:47
  well, yeah, that's good for you. Good for you.
• 48:55
  I'm just now seeing, 'cause I have some things that they
• 49:02
  decided that they won't call a vote to extend to enhance the
• 49:06
  subsidies under the Affordable Care Act, which effectively is
• 49:12
  guaranteeing that they will expire at the end of the month.
• 49:15
  That means higher insurance premiums will go into effect for
• 49:18
  millions of Americans who get coverage through Obamacare next.
• 49:28
  So there's that. #Winning.
• 49:32
  I know that Freddie wants me to talk about this, so I'm going to
• 49:39
  'cause I want to. I don't usually I keep her out
• 49:45
  of my news, but we need some light heartedness.
• 49:49
  Mariah Carey the songbird brings some light to this horrible.
• 49:59
  I have other other things happening.
• 50:02
  So for good news, Mariah broke her own record with the number
• 50:09
  one single being 20 weeks on the Billboard Hot 100 with All I
• 50:16
  Want For Christmas Is You. In fact, I heard that.
• 50:24
  It's almost like the Whammageddon.
• 50:28
  That people are trying to avoid the.
• 50:30
  Song. And I'm like, is that cause Wham
• 50:33
  is like #2 or #3 on the charts? Does this help them in some way?
• 50:39
  I don't know. That's not the only record that
• 50:43
  she set. The song is now 18 times
• 50:47
  platinum, which makes it diamond certified.
• 50:52
  And it's the longest running #1 previously Nas, little Nas X had
• 50:58
  it, and then she and Good Humor put the torch on social media
• 51:05
  that she had taken it back. The album Merry Christmas
• 51:09
  originally released in 1994. Isn't it weird how all this
• 51:14
  stuff that was released during like our childhood or early
• 51:18
  teens is like making this huge comeback?
• 51:23
  It's so interesting 'cause. There's other things.
• 51:28
  Vintage. Oh, am I vintage?
• 51:33
  Probably. Oh wow.
• 51:36
  Anyway, the Mariah Carey Merry Christmas album is now certified
• 51:39
  diamond with 10 million copy sold, but I think that also
• 51:44
  includes streaming. I can't figure out the the math
• 51:48
  with now streaming being attached to it 'cause they
• 51:51
  barely pay. I'm so sorry, independent
• 51:57
  artist. This will be Mariah's third
• 52:02
  diamond. Certified album joining music
• 52:05
  box and Daydream and which makes this now 3 consecutive albums
• 52:12
  certified in 1993 but the albums were released in 199394 and 95.
• 52:20
  They weren't certified in those years, but so oh, did you see
• 52:26
  that as a 51 minutes ago all I. Want for Christmas, you know is
• 52:30
  you. Is no longer.
• 52:31
  Number one, Oh wow, thanks for bringing.
• 52:35
  Bad news to my good news. You're welcome.
• 52:38
  Thanks last. Christmas by Wham.
• 52:40
  Is now at the. Number one spot, I could take
• 52:43
  that. I could take that.
• 52:46
  So maybe it is a good thing that Wham again is a thing.
• 52:52
  Maybe I have. You know I'm not.
• 52:54
  One of those. People like when people get
• 52:56
  insulted like Beyoncé. Like the Beehive?
• 53:02
  That is in full effect if anybody has seen the Internet go
• 53:05
  wild. You insult Beyoncé and it's
• 53:07
  like, oh God, it's ridiculous. It's insane.
• 53:11
  But I'm as long as you keep your.
• 53:15
  I mean, don't act like you're trying to attack me 'cause I
• 53:19
  have nothing. She's earning the money.
• 53:21
  I'm just sitting here. If I was earning her money, I I
• 53:27
  could possibly. Be sitting here, but we probably
• 53:29
  would. Be like, you know, a little
• 53:33
  late, right? Right.
• 53:36
  And this ties the record with Whitney Houston and Shania
• 53:41
  Twain. I didn't realize that there were
• 53:46
  so many records on the Billboard 1. 100 Hot 100.
• 53:54
  That were by women but nobody really talks about.
• 53:58
  That. Why is that?
• 54:02
  Gee, I don't. Know why?
• 54:04
  Doesn't anybody ever talk about women who are successful?
• 54:07
  No idea, can't imagine. Seems very uncharacteristic of
• 54:14
  anything misogynistic world that we live in.
• 54:18
  Anyhow, and she announced that she's opening the Winter Games.
• 54:23
  Is it in Italy? I wrote that yes, it's in Milan.
• 54:29
  Milan darling. Anyway, so, and the only reason
• 54:34
  I happen to know that is because.
• 54:35
  I saw a commercial that had Dua Lipa on it and the only reason I
• 54:39
  know that it was Dua Lipa was because she made a levitating
• 54:43
  reference. Otherwise I would have no
• 54:44
  fucking clue who the hell it was because I don't care.
• 54:49
  Wow, wow. I am the worst person when it
• 54:52
  comes to like celebrities I could be.
• 54:54
  Surrounded by celebrities and I wouldn't recognize most of them.
• 54:56
  I'd be like, I have no idea who that is.
• 54:58
  Wow, I'm here. To help you it's.
• 55:03
  OK. Thank you.
• 55:04
  Well, you're here to help me with.
• 55:05
  General everyday people because I don't recognize them either.
• 55:11
  That is true and other. Good news I.
• 55:16
  Think it is. A statue of Barbara Rose Johns,
• 55:23
  who historically was a black teen who let the walk out in
• 55:27
  1951 to protest the horrendous conditions at her segregated
• 55:33
  high school in FarmVille, VA. It was also one of the landmark
• 55:40
  cases known as Brown versus the Board of Education, that struck
• 55:45
  down segregation in education. So and the.
• 55:54
  Statue. Replaced the Confederate general
• 55:58
  who fought to preserve slavery, Robert E.
• 56:03
  Lee, Why are there so many? Statues of this man.
• 56:09
  So to to give everybody a little bit of.
• 56:11
  Context because people seem to think that racism, segregation,
• 56:17
  the Jim Crow, things like that no, they seem to think that they
• 56:20
  were like in the very deep, deep like past.
• 56:24
  And so 1951, my father was 14, so my dad would have.
• 56:34
  Been going into high school. During the time when they were
• 56:40
  trying to get things integrated, so and my father is.
• 56:44
  Still alive. That's the part.
• 56:48
  That people are like, not like. Right, people seem to think.
• 56:53
  That it was some distant past of like hundreds and years ago.
• 56:56
  Like it. It's not.
• 56:57
  There are plenty of Barbara Rose Johns is still still alive.
• 57:04
  Still alive. She is not some long dead
• 57:10
  historical figure. Like she is still alive.
• 57:16
  People that she went to school with are still alive.
• 57:19
  Like my father would have been old enough to go to school with
• 57:22
  her. Like this is not some ancient
• 57:28
  history thing that this country did once.
• 57:32
  It's very current history and it's still happening.
• 57:37
  It is still happening. So tell me about that.
• 57:45
  Also want you to know that if somebody says something to you
• 57:50
  that you may think is a micro aggression or offensive, take
• 57:56
  that, seal it in a plastic bag, think about it, don't respond to
• 58:03
  that person and walk away. That's not offensive.
• 58:13
  OK, OK, OK. I feel like we should talk
• 58:19
  about. I know we've we've talked.
• 58:21
  About it briefly at other points, but I feel like we
• 58:24
  haven't like we should play drove into it, I think.
• 58:26
  We should we should take a dive into.
• 58:28
  Microaggressions at some point this is and when we come back,
• 58:32
  well, especially. The clear.
• 58:33
  Ones. Oh God.
• 58:36
  So many. Microaggressions.
• 58:38
  Yeah, I feel like that's. That's definitely something that
• 58:40
  we black and gay has double microaggressions.
• 58:43
  Oh my God, pick one you can't have.
• 58:45
  Both pick a fucking struggle Jesus and have all the.
• 58:50
  Struggles so. I.
• 58:52
  Think that on what Freddie is saying, I think it is great that
• 58:59
  the statue is there. I think it's very there's.
• 59:05
  Irony in there. But I wonder if dump truck
• 59:09
  'cause he always finds some kind of fucking reason to put himself
• 59:13
  in this and might say like, oh, well, we need to put that back
• 59:18
  at the Capitol. There's no need to put this.
• 59:22
  You know what they're thinking up there.
• 59:25
  You know, she doesn't need to be up there 'cause, you know,
• 59:28
  they're 28 and look, 46. So how?
• 59:35
  That contour on that. Nose was horrible.
• 59:38
  I'm like I'm almost 50 and I feel like I'm.
• 59:40
  Aging better. We should take up those photos.
• 59:45
  Where's? Gonzo.
• 59:45
  Happy birthday Gonzo, by the way.
• 59:48
  Oh yeah. Seriously.
• 59:51
  Tragically. On Sunday.
• 59:57
  There was a. Mass shooting.
• 59:59
  A man took down one of the gunmen, which was a father and
• 1:00:04
  son. Responsible for the mass
• 1:00:07
  shooting at I. Is it Bondi Beach?
• 1:00:10
  Bondi, Yeah, Bondi Beach in Australia.
• 1:00:13
  It was. The mass shooting killed 15
• 1:00:17
  people during a Hanukkah celebration at Sydney's Bonsai
• 1:00:22
  Beach or Bondi Beach, Excuse me? And it's being named as a
• 1:00:29
  terrorist attack inspired by the Islamic State.
• 1:00:35
  And I think there was. More on it this morning.
• 1:00:38
  I did this last night. I just, and I will point out
• 1:00:44
  that there are differences between Australia and the US.
• 1:00:49
  Let's proceed, as tragic as this is.
• 1:00:52
  There are. There are two things different.
• 1:00:58
  The Prime Minister, the Home Affairs Minister, Tony Burke,
• 1:01:02
  identified Ahmed Al Ahmed. This is his name.
• 1:01:08
  I did not make this up as the Australian hero he was.
• 1:01:16
  He's a. Father of two, he was shot in
• 1:01:17
  the shoulder. He's a fruit shop owner.
• 1:01:21
  You don't need to know that, but he's a regular everyday guy that
• 1:01:24
  went after it. But he was not the only guy that
• 1:01:29
  went or person, excuse me, that went after this shooter.
• 1:01:34
  There was a couple identified as Sophia and Boris Gurman that
• 1:01:41
  tried to stop the gunman before the attack even occurred.
• 1:01:46
  And. I warn you.
• 1:01:48
  That if you Google this I was like in tears last night because
• 1:01:54
  there is sensitive videos out there of this happening.
• 1:02:03
  Wow. In January, that the couple
• 1:02:08
  would have set celebrated their 35th anniversary.
• 1:02:12
  I'm trying not to cry. Wow, yeah.
• 1:02:21
  Yeah. And literally, they did.
• 1:02:23
  Everything together and to think that they went out.
• 1:02:29
  Doing this together, who? This is a hard hitting one too.
• 1:02:36
  Yeah, I did. Some.
• 1:02:39
  Research on the Holocaust when I was like in high school.
• 1:02:46
  And kind of got. Very got to know some of these.
• 1:02:55
  People by literature. And I remember reading about
• 1:02:58
  Alex, so it was weird that this man had survived the Holocaust.
• 1:03:07
  Yep. To be shot down by people.
• 1:03:12
  At a celebration which celebrated his faith, his
• 1:03:16
  religion. Yep.
• 1:03:18
  Tell me again that anti-Semitism doesn't.
• 1:03:20
  Exist. Oh my God.
• 1:03:24
  And here is where. The US.
• 1:03:28
  Or. Australia differs from the US.
• 1:03:32
  So not even hours. Didn't even think twice.
• 1:03:38
  Of putting this. Out into the media.
• 1:03:41
  The Prime Minister is set to push a stricter set of gun
• 1:03:45
  control laws after this so took place.
• 1:03:50
  To put this into context for. People that are not.
• 1:03:52
  Aware. Please do.
• 1:03:53
  Australia has some of the strictest gun laws out there.
• 1:03:59
  Like, they are very strict with their gun laws and people like,
• 1:04:03
  yeah, but look, there's a the shooting just happened.
• 1:04:06
  You're right. It was the first mass shooting
• 1:04:11
  in 30 years and 30 years. The gunmen were.
• 1:04:19
  Not from there. Correct. 30 years.
• 1:04:23
  Meanwhile, we have mass shootings that literally happen
• 1:04:26
  every day and we still don't have any sort of stricter.
• 1:04:29
  Gun laws we don't. Give a fuck, one mass shooting
• 1:04:32
  happens in 30 years and Australia is like Nope we have
• 1:04:36
  to do better. Meanwhile here everybody's like,
• 1:04:42
  well, if. Everybody on that beach had a
• 1:04:43
  gun, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
• 1:04:44
  No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.
• 1:04:47
  That's not how that works. That's not how that works.
• 1:04:50
  Human life over there. How many fucking?
• 1:04:52
  People here carry. Guns.
• 1:04:54
  And we still have gun violence. How many people here?
• 1:04:59
  Have either. Concealed carry or not concealed
• 1:05:04
  carry permits and shit have weapons on them all the fucking
• 1:05:06
  time. We still have mass shootings
• 1:05:08
  every fucking day, so obviously. Carrying guns.
• 1:05:13
  Is not going to stop gun violence because they have.
• 1:05:18
  Had. One mass shooting in 30 years?
• 1:05:22
  We have one mass shooting about every 30 hours so.
• 1:05:29
  Right. So for the people here, they're
• 1:05:32
  like, well, if they've. Been carrying guns.
• 1:05:34
  No, it is apples and oranges. It's not even apples and
• 1:05:37
  oranges. It's not even fruit.
• 1:05:38
  It's not even the same fruit. They're not even on the same
• 1:05:41
  planet. You literally have Australia
• 1:05:44
  that already has incredibly strict gun laws and they have
• 1:05:49
  one mass shooting in. 30 years. And the immediate response is
• 1:05:53
  shit, yeah. We have a mass shooting every
• 1:05:58
  fucking. Day and our response is thoughts
• 1:06:03
  and prayers. I don't know what we could do to
• 1:06:07
  make it. Better thoughts and prayers,
• 1:06:10
  right? So yeah, no for the.
• 1:06:13
  People that are saying that Australia could have done
• 1:06:15
  whatever, no, if you look at it in context, it's bullshit.
• 1:06:18
  Absolute fucking bullshit. We are in no position to try and
• 1:06:23
  school anybody on gun control or how to prevent mass shootings or
• 1:06:29
  how to, you know, prevent gun violence.
• 1:06:33
  We are the worst fucking people on the planet to be trying to
• 1:06:38
  school anybody else on that. So no, shut the fuck up.
• 1:06:43
  Period. Yes.
• 1:06:48
  So I I. Intermix these after.
• 1:06:53
  After. I wrote the show the this.
• 1:06:56
  The show sheet I literally had to like.
• 1:07:01
  No, no, that's. What?
• 1:07:03
  No, I was not. I talked with my thumbs.
• 1:07:06
  I'm so sorry. But I needed like a moment
• 1:07:14
  before I could go like lay down as I was just like, this is
• 1:07:18
  happening. And like Australia has also.
• 1:07:23
  I mean, I'm not saying like I would pick up my bags and go to
• 1:07:25
  Australia because I'm sure there's things there that are
• 1:07:28
  not aligned to me, but. That is a a big thing also.
• 1:07:38
  They're breaking records and donating blood and plasma at
• 1:07:43
  high numbers like breaking records to help people that have
• 1:07:48
  either been injured or like in. All instances what?
• 1:07:56
  I have seen so far they turned around and just said, OK, well,
• 1:08:02
  and cause in instances I feel like we say, well, that's not my
• 1:08:06
  community. I can't help them, right?
• 1:08:08
  In this instance, they all turned around.
• 1:08:11
  There's lines out the door to the blood bank.
• 1:08:14
  You'd never see that here, no. No.
• 1:08:21
  So. I don't know.
• 1:08:27
  Anyway, let's go on to what's lighten, what's lighten it back
• 1:08:32
  up. Sorry to keep you on a a roller
• 1:08:34
  coaster, but folks were saying we need some good news with the
• 1:08:39
  heavy. I will say actor Dick Van Dyke
• 1:08:44
  celebrated his 100th birthday. That's crazy and still is
• 1:08:50
  dancing. What?
• 1:08:53
  Can I have what he's having? And he has credited that I read
• 1:09:03
  a whole bunch of things. The diet he's on has been
• 1:09:06
  scientifically proven that, you know, like he eats fresh fruits
• 1:09:11
  and vegetables, yadda yadda yadda.
• 1:09:12
  But I don't have the willpower and the I I enjoy food.
• 1:09:17
  I. Bless him, but I don't need to
• 1:09:20
  live 100 if it means like that. I don't get to eat even also he.
• 1:09:24
  Credits that in situations remaining positive and being and
• 1:09:30
  remaining calm. He believes, as we have seen in
• 1:09:33
  the Vanity Fair of photos, that being mean or being hateful
• 1:09:39
  takes so much out of us. And it can be the killer that
• 1:09:42
  hold, that we hold onto. It's the silent killer.
• 1:09:47
  So most people say who? Who?
• 1:09:51
  Decided I would like to. Know that JoJo Siwa would be the
• 1:09:55
  best person to do step in time at his 100th birthday
• 1:09:59
  celebration. Because it was.
• 1:10:01
  I tried to black that out so. Like who decided that?
• 1:10:05
  Like she. Would be the best person to
• 1:10:07
  bring that up. I I like don't why why why why
• 1:10:15
  of all the fucking people there are probably 100 other people
• 1:10:19
  that I feel could have done that much better justice than
• 1:10:22
  whatever the where was. What's his name?
• 1:10:26
  He's. Like one of my.
• 1:10:26
  Favorites Derek. Derek Hough, Yeah.
• 1:10:31
  Like where was he he? Could have.
• 1:10:32
  Oh my God. Derek Hough could probably could
• 1:10:34
  have done a. Great job at that, Yeah, but no.
• 1:10:38
  Fucking JoJo Siwa, wow. For some reason.
• 1:10:42
  Like was chosen. Why?
• 1:10:44
  Why? Her booking fee?
• 1:10:46
  It was low. She was available.
• 1:10:52
  They're. Like sure, why not?
• 1:10:57
  She's probably. Paid them it's like.
• 1:11:00
  She's like, please just let me do it.
• 1:11:04
  France. Is introducing a repair bonus
• 1:11:10
  that gives people money back for fixing their clothes, shoes and
• 1:11:14
  electronics and it's helping cut waste and extending product life
• 1:11:21
  clothing. If you didn't know this, I knew
• 1:11:24
  this 'cause I watched all these documentaries where they showed
• 1:11:29
  landfills. Of clothes just floating.
• 1:11:33
  Clothing is one of the largest types of waste, particularly due
• 1:11:37
  to fast fashions, rapid cycles. So I want to say like 30.
• 1:11:43
  Years ago is where this. Example starts, we weren't doing
• 1:11:49
  the Sheehan's, the yadda yadda yadda, or we weren't doing
• 1:11:54
  knockoffs as fast and you would. Wait until the next.
• 1:12:01
  Season or even if it was regular.
• 1:12:06
  Clothes you would still wait till the next.
• 1:12:07
  Season to get clothes stay in right and whatever.
• 1:12:12
  Now it's just so readily available.
• 1:12:14
  It goes so fast and you see stuff on the runway and
• 1:12:19
  somebody's made a knock off in like an hour and you see it on
• 1:12:23
  like apps like Xian and Timo and all these.
• 1:12:28
  So what happens is we are wasteful beings.
• 1:12:33
  We see the thing, we wear the thing, we're done with the
• 1:12:36
  thing, we toss it out. Not everybody donates to the
• 1:12:42
  thrift. Store or to the Goodwill or to
• 1:12:44
  the whatever it were turns an outfit into a new thing.
• 1:12:50
  I'm guilty of it, but I hold onto it for like dear life.
• 1:12:54
  But I have outfits that I have made into different things or
• 1:12:58
  gowns that I've had at panels to and so yeah.
• 1:13:07
  It if it. Affects the environment because
• 1:13:09
  people throw these things out no matter how good.
• 1:13:15
  Or how? Bad they are, and they just sit
• 1:13:19
  in landfills, which along with oil and energy, is the leading
• 1:13:25
  impact to the destruction of our planet, Right?
• 1:13:32
  Is it? Is it, is it France?
• 1:13:37
  I know there's one. It's it's one European country.
• 1:13:39
  Might actually be France where they're setting up now in like
• 1:13:43
  in, in like like city squares and stuff where people are
• 1:13:47
  setting up tables with like sewing machines and things like
• 1:13:51
  that and you can come and bring your clothes.
• 1:13:53
  Might be part of this I think. That's part of it, and you can
• 1:13:57
  bring like and. There's people that the, you
• 1:13:58
  know, Cobblers that fix shoes and and bags and things and you
• 1:14:02
  can bring your things to the square and pay like a very
• 1:14:06
  nominal fee to have these things fixed and repaired so that it's
• 1:14:13
  not just being wasted. So if you don't.
• 1:14:22
  See the theme here? I'm kind of pointing out things
• 1:14:25
  like things that we have. Proposed in the.
• 1:14:29
  US that we're not doing in the US, but other countries are like
• 1:14:35
  major cities in Indonesia have noticed a drop in plastic waste.
• 1:14:40
  You know why And you know what? As a result, they have cleaner
• 1:14:46
  rivers and coastlines after a ban on single use plastic bags.
• 1:14:53
  We tried that and a lot of temper tantrums got thrown.
• 1:14:58
  People didn't enjoy that. Yeah, Costco right now has a
• 1:15:04
  great deal. It's like 6 bucks for four big
• 1:15:07
  reusable bags. What?
• 1:15:10
  Yeah, it's fantastic. And you just have to remember.
• 1:15:12
  That we have to, we have to remember to put them in the car.
• 1:15:16
  That's always the hardest part, but I know.
• 1:15:18
  'Cause you bring them in, right? But like like I.
• 1:15:22
  Try to. We try to it's it's harder when
• 1:15:26
  we're going to the regular grocery.
• 1:15:28
  Store to remember and we need to.
• 1:15:29
  Be better about that. But we're, we're doing better
• 1:15:32
  because like Goodwill now you have to pay for bags, Savers,
• 1:15:35
  you have to pay for bags. So like if you're going
• 1:15:37
  thrifting, bring your own bags with you.
• 1:15:39
  We're getting, we're getting better at that and we're getting
• 1:15:42
  better at that. Do you?
• 1:15:43
  Just leave them in the car. Yeah, but then you have.
• 1:15:46
  To. You.
• 1:15:47
  Do, but then you have to bring them.
• 1:15:48
  In Oh, and remember to take them back out again.
• 1:15:52
  Is the whole. That's the taking them back out.
• 1:15:53
  So like after you go shopping, put them back in the.
• 1:15:56
  Car, right, because you have to bring all your stuff in.
• 1:16:00
  And then unload it and then you have.
• 1:16:02
  To remember to put it back in the.
• 1:16:03
  Car is that that's the that's the tricky part.
• 1:16:05
  I'm at the point where I want to get my own.
• 1:16:07
  Shopping cart. Seriously, Jesus.
• 1:16:12
  I actually I try to be, you know, I everybody knows that I
• 1:16:15
  do most of my shopping at thrift stores because the spending an
• 1:16:21
  exorbitant amount on. Clothes.
• 1:16:22
  Is just seems silly to me when I'm downsizing.
• 1:16:27
  When I'm going through stuff and I'm getting rid of things that
• 1:16:29
  don't fit me anymore, I will do my best to donate it back unless
• 1:16:35
  something is like really falling apart or like because sometimes
• 1:16:40
  like my shoes are like, if they're like shredding, I'm
• 1:16:43
  like, I'm not going to donate these.
• 1:16:44
  It's shitty so I'll toss them. I don't donate the stuff that
• 1:16:48
  has my name on it though. Nothing really has my name on
• 1:16:51
  it. So I will like donate back to
• 1:16:57
  make when I'm downsizing and getting rid of shit.
• 1:16:59
  So just to make it, you know, like that way I have more room
• 1:17:02
  to get more stuff if I want to. But I always try to be better at
• 1:17:07
  that than just throwing. Things out.
• 1:17:09
  Because it is wasteful, really wasteful.
• 1:17:14
  So that's. All the news.
• 1:17:17
  I have for you right now. I did read something about that
• 1:17:20
  dump truck was gonna be charging for people to get their visas.
• 1:17:27
  He's AI, don't know. Still, we're gonna make it as
• 1:17:30
  difficult as possible to like, let tourists come in and then
• 1:17:33
  wonder why we're not having any, like, revenue from tourism.
• 1:17:37
  Oh, wow. I wonder why they why can't
• 1:17:39
  they? Come in, right?
• 1:17:41
  Why can't they work here? Stupid SO.
• 1:17:46
  Anyhow. What do we have coming up next
• 1:17:51
  week? Christmas Eve, right?
• 1:17:55
  Yes, 7420 God already Jesus Christ, you're.
• 1:17:59
  Welcome. It's Jesus's birthday funny,
• 1:18:05
  funny clip that I watched Leslie Jones was like telling people on
• 1:18:11
  the view I don't buy presents for anybody.
• 1:18:14
  I don't buy presents for you. I don't it's somebody else's
• 1:18:16
  birthday. Why do you buy presents for
• 1:18:18
  everyone? So I tried that with my kids.
• 1:18:25
  They do not think that's funny and my the problem is is is
• 1:18:29
  actually. Is my son's birthday, so that
• 1:18:33
  would. Be fucked, be like I'm.
• 1:18:36
  Sorry, it is Jesus's birthday it.
• 1:18:38
  Is not your birthday, so technically Jesus was born
• 1:18:42
  before. You so like the party is for
• 1:18:44
  him, not nothing to do with you. Yeah, so anyway.
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  So we won't be here next week, but Jen, I put January, December
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  30th. That's a long ass break.
• 1:19:03
  December 31st, Freddie will be here.
• 1:19:06
  Maybe I'll be lurking in the background, who knows, but I
• 1:19:10
  haven't secured a. Cohost yet but.
• 1:19:13
  We'll see if I can. I mean, if you're watching and
• 1:19:14
  you're interested. Shoot your shot.
• 1:19:18
  It doesn't hurt to try, but we. Are able to say.
• 1:19:20
  No. I think people forget that.
• 1:19:26
  Part when they're like, right, let me let me be on your
• 1:19:28
  podcast. No, no, thank you.
• 1:19:36
  No, thank you. We have the right.
• 1:19:38
  But on the week of December 22nd, I have a virtual study
• 1:19:45
  hall for Drag Story Hour. There's things jumping all over
• 1:19:50
  the place. I know I don't know what
• 1:19:52
  happened. What are you doing?
• 1:19:55
  And then on the 27th, I have trivia, which is like young
• 1:20:02
  adult literature in the and the study hall is about the same
• 1:20:07
  thing at Brick Row Coffee slash Empire, Empower Coffee.
• 1:20:17
  So that will be on the 27th, which is a such a thing.
• 1:20:23
  Oh, I have the things. Why am I not showing the things?
• 1:20:26
  I don't know. Oh, that's rude.
• 1:20:29
  Of me. So we have trivia readings,
• 1:20:32
  prizes on the 22nd. I feel like I was supposed to do
• 1:20:37
  this with you, but it was never. Confirmed.
• 1:20:40
  Well, Michelle watches. These on Thursdays.
• 1:20:43
  So Michelle, please answer Freddie.
• 1:20:47
  He's asking and then. On January 9th, we are back at
• 1:20:55
  the Phoenix Cat Cafe for drag, bingo and cats.
• 1:20:58
  Make sure that you reserve your spot as soon as you can because
• 1:21:02
  it will fill up. It's always a good time.
• 1:21:07
  Yeah, it's always a good time. And then on the 28th of
• 1:21:14
  February, and I'm letting everybody know this now is Drag
• 1:21:18
  Story, our Arizona's annual fundraiser.
• 1:21:20
  We're turning 7. Oh, Lucky 7 and the.
• 1:21:25
  Theme for this year's fundraiser is.
• 1:21:26
  Going to be like gaming stuff, so it should be fun.
• 1:21:32
  Am I gonna be good at this? We are.
• 1:21:34
  Looking to secure, you know. Any raffle prizes?
• 1:21:37
  So if you or someone you know either has a business or would
• 1:21:40
  like to donate a raffle gift basket or gift cards or
• 1:21:44
  something to add to raffle stuff, let us know.
• 1:21:51
  Last year, what did we, we raised like what 3 grand or
• 1:21:54
  something. This year, this last one, I
• 1:21:56
  think something like that, it was, it was, it's always a good
• 1:22:00
  time. It's great.
• 1:22:00
  We had some amazing folks donate some amazing things.
• 1:22:03
  So that was really cool. So make sure that you put that
• 1:22:06
  on your calendar for February 28th.
• 1:22:09
  I did confirm that. I do know.
• 1:22:11
  That oh good. Oh good.
• 1:22:16
  I don't know if you've been. Told Gaming theme number number.
• 1:22:20
  Yeah, I'm already thinking about it.
• 1:22:27
  So it's not too late to book us for your holiday gatherings.
• 1:22:32
  There are a couple more days of Hanukkah, Kwanzaa just started,
• 1:22:37
  and Christmas. I mean, also New Year's stuff
• 1:22:40
  too. You know, we also do virtual.
• 1:22:46
  I'll dress, look at We literally dress up and hang out in our
• 1:22:49
  rooms. True story.
• 1:22:54
  So true story. YouTube.
• 1:23:00
  Let us know. It's not that hard, I promise.
• 1:23:04
  Message never hurt nobody. We have guest announcements, but
• 1:23:08
  check out Patreon for the announcements of the upcoming
• 1:23:15
  guest. I know we have some in January,
• 1:23:19
  but look for the folks that will be joining us on your Wednesday
• 1:23:23
  night conversation. I don't.
• 1:23:26
  I feel like there was a lot of heavy I didn't.
• 1:23:33
  Write any. Closing remarks because I was so
• 1:23:36
  done with the news last night because I just I it's pretty
• 1:23:41
  much what you said. Life is short.
• 1:23:46
  In an instance it can be taken. Away from you.
• 1:23:50
  Locally, internationally, this week has been heavy.
• 1:23:58
  Yeah, we lost. I almost want to say she was
• 1:24:02
  international because I've seen people from like all over the
• 1:24:07
  world commenting on the passing. But anyhow, there was.
• 1:24:20
  A There was a something that stuck out to.
• 1:24:22
  Me today was that there was a mother of.
• 1:24:28
  A. She was from the Ukraine.
• 1:24:32
  Her, her daughter and her son went to Australia to escape the
• 1:24:39
  Ukraine. The big.
• 1:24:43
  Bigger deal was like she didn't know.
• 1:24:46
  What her son would be doing or what he would end up in, or
• 1:24:50
  worse, you know, and to find that her daughter had been.
• 1:24:58
  Shot as they were trying. To escape the world of terror in
• 1:25:04
  the Ukraine. It tells you, like we've been
• 1:25:13
  saying, take the pictures, do the things, spend more time with
• 1:25:19
  your people. It's just, it's just really
• 1:25:27
  precious. And this week's news was like, I
• 1:25:31
  cannot believe this is happening.
• 1:25:33
  And I cannot believe that other human beings are shit holes, for
• 1:25:42
  the lack of a better term, because you know, I'm so
• 1:25:44
  scientific. But with that, I say take into
• 1:25:48
  the holidays, enjoy your time with your family, your chosen
• 1:25:52
  family and friends, and we will see you back for your Wednesday
• 1:25:57
  night conversation on December 31st.
• 1:26:01
  Have a good night and happy holidays.
• 1:26:05
  Good night and we'll catch you in two weeks.