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Female AUTISM Checklist (The Ultimate List YOU NEED!) · Aspergers & Autism Podcast [The Aspie World] AuDHD

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  But how so do you have a daughter or a friend, who's
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  female and you think that they may be on the autism spectrum?
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  And you don't always a goal on this video.
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  I'm talking about female autism characteristics and this is a
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  female often checklist, The Ultimate Guide to, you know,
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  coming up. Hey guys, welcome back to the as
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  Okay. So there is this huge kind of
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  like gap between females who are diagnosed with autism and males
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  who diagnosed autism. Hey, I'm done.
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  And I have autism myself and I mail.
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  Now, I did a bunch of videos interviewing my friends who are
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  female on the autism spectrum and I will leave a link to that
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  playlist in the card above here and down below in the comment
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  section, so that you guys can check that out.
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  But in terms of the female to awesome balance, it's different
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  to the mail and autism bounce, and it's completely way of
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  actually it's one out of every three.
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  So you get three males to one, female, who diagnosed with
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  autism, which means that they're saying that female diagnosis is
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  three times less likely than Male diagnosis, which is really
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  weird, right? Let me know if you are a parent
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  who are a friend or carry, who's looking for?
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  Somebody else in the comments down below?
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  Or are you a female who's looking to get diagnosed?
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  Let me know in the comments right down below.
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  Right now. I'd read and respond to every
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  single one. Love talking to you guys.
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  Super awesome. So, basically, I compiled a
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  checklist of kind of like the main characteristics that you
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  would, kind of look out for when you're thinking about, is my
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  daughter on the Spectrum or is my best friend?
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  Sheila. Is she on the Spectrum or Like
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  my grandmother, she on the Spectrum, you know?
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  And just recently I interviewed a woman on my podcast called
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  Anna Wilson. And as mum was 72 years old and
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  she got diagnosed autism, which is incredible, but it just shows
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  that they just miss out a bulk all the time.
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  And it's probably because they're not looking for the
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  right things. And also, if you can get ahead
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  of the game, like, if you can compile a list of the things
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  that like you notice to be Autumn characteristics in the
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  female person that you're dealing with before going to the
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  The the assessment process or you got your doctor for a
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  referral for assessment, then this is definitely going to help
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  mr. By compile this checklist with
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  seven items on it. And it's the ultimate one.
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  So what I'll try and do it as well as I will try and compile
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  this into a PDF document and leave it in a link down below.
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  So, you guys can see that too because it'd be super awesome to
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  have a printout version of this, that you can kind of, you know,
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  just use at your leisure. Okay guys, were getting back to
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  it. Super pups.
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  that out. Okay.
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  So here is the checklist or female autism checklist just for
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  you. So the first one on here is lack
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  of eye contact. No eye contact is a big issue
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  for people on the autism spectrum.
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  People on the autism spectrum have a difficulty making eye
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  contact, and maintaining that eye contact, which then
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  evidently causes a lot of issues for people and so it's a big
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  indicator if someone can't hold a conversation with.
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  Someone and keep consistent eye contact because consistent eye,
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  contact is definitely one of the social norms that people kind of
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  fine too. So when you're trying to think,
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  well, is my daughter on the autism spectrum or my friend,
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  whatever it will do, they make eye contact is the first of its
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  kind of look out for if it's not exclusive and it's not a
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  deal-breaker but it is definitely something that you
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  should definitely look out for. So the next thing we list is
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  difficulty socializing, no, social interaction, social
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  communication socializing with other people.
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  Other girls other guys, whatever.
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  This can be super difficult for people who are on the autism
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  spectrum, especially females who are more outgoing by in nature,
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  but they're more introverted because of the conditions.
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  So they have this conflict of wanting to socialize, but then
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  they have a super difficulty of socializing, whereas males on
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  the Spectrum, probably, just not even go out and socialize.
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  But what I tend to see is that females who are wanting to go
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  out and socialize and wanting to make friends but have extreme
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  difficulties in that and have just been reclusive.
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  They just end up saying, okay. Well that sucked.
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  I got into this huge argument this girl and because they
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  didn't understand me blah blah. Blah.
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  And then they come home, and then they just lock themselves
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  away. And then they have no friends.
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  They have no social time, and it's really sad, and it's really
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  upsetting. But that difficult for
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  socializing is typically one of the most important ones to watch
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  out for. So again, you take off that list
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  you compiling quite all this straight.
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  So the next one is, typically what I kind of talked about on
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  last time, but which is the introverted personality but
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  outgoing in general. And what I mean by that is, you
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  know, they, they want to go out and they To kind of go out and
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  do these things. Like they want to see friends.
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  They want to go to university. They want to go to school.
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  They want to do their best. I want to go to class, do all
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  these things, you know, amongst having extreme social anxiety
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  and and the fact that, you know, if they had a choice to go to a
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  party of stay home and read their favorite book, They're
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  going to come and stay home and read their favorite book because
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  their intraverted by Nature, so it's quite a contradiction,
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  isn't it? So, you know, your kid or your
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  friend, or your mom or whoever it is, you're questioning right
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  now, you know, they're definitely an introvert because
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  you know who they are. You know, you lived and out but
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  then they're all sudden like, you know, going out to these
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  social engineering and how are you even doing this?
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  Because they're the most introverted person ever, and
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  it's so confusing. I love that contradiction, but
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  you'll know, it's kind of like one of those things if, you
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  know, I'm talking about, you know, you know, that's exactly
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  it. And if you know that what I'm
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  talking about right now, give this video a thumbs up.
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  If you're a person on the Spectrum who is an introverted
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  outgoing person. Please give this video a thumbs
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  up with the like button down below because we super awesome
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  to show a bit of love between everyone here, right now, as a
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  bit of a, you know, You have hanging out.
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  Awesome. Okay.
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  So the next thing on my list is obsessive collector.
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  Now girls who are on the autism spectrum, get obsessed with
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  collecting certain things. It could be Twilight, DVDs,
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  Twilight books. It could be a book series of or
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  video series of Care Bears. It could be anything.
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  Could even be Winnie, the Pooh plushie dolls, they collect.
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  So people autism spectrum, conditions have obsessive
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  interest and obsessive special interest.
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  Where they'll know a lot about science subject and kind of read
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  it till the cows come home. And you know if you sir By
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  dinner table with them and you're lucky enough.
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  Sat next person, you're gonna get the full rundown dictionary
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  and Encyclopedia of the top of that.
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  They really really like which is super cool but girls on the
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  autism spectrum decide to take it a little bit further and
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  they're typically more collectors of collect stuff.
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  Now, you know exactly what I do. My mum's out there.
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  Watching this video right now. Thinking gives me.
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  That's my, that's my kid right there.
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  And it's funny because I also collect things, but I observe
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  collect things because of feeling a sort of personality to
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  those objects, which is really interesting.
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  And I did a video all about that, but in terms of, in terms
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  of females on the spectrum of collecting, they're collecting
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  because that's their Obsession and they'll click their
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  Obsession and it accumulates, which is super, super
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  interesting. I find it really interesting,
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  really funny. And I know every moment there
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  who's got like every beanie baby in there, kind of basement or
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  waffled garage, or attic is going to be like, yep.
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  We got him. We got every, you know, care
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  bed, Teddy in the world sitting in her Loft.
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  So yeah, super awesome. Okay, so the next one is really
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  We interesting selective mutism. So selective mutism comes kind
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  of hand-in-hand with autism and it's very, very common,
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  especially with high support, needs people who are on the
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  Spectrum, but in terms of females on the spectrum, they
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  have a type of selective mutism where it comes into play where
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  it's almost like it's like super shy.
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  Like say you your daughter's really confidential talk to, you
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  know, your family members everybody in blah, blah blah.
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  She's like well, shut up about her.
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  Topic talking to everybody, just chatter chatter chatter like we
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  all do just super awesome. And then you are your friend
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  comes over or your cousin who lives in like a different
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  country comes over and he's like, hey, check out my
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  daughter. Hey say hi daughter and
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  daughters like completely. Just.
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  Nope. Go.
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  So room stays in the room, didn't say a word the whole
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  time. The person's down.
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  They could be staying with you for Christmas.
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  And I will say a word to them, right?
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  And it's selective mutism because it's like an
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  overwhelming feeling, because it's like, it's overwhelming to
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  be around somebody. You don't understand it, don't
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  know. And so So it becomes a silent
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  kind of gesture. Where you say.
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  Well, I'm going to keep tax silent, keep quiet and I have
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  nothing to add this conversation control.
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  Still trying to set out the the anxiety from it.
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  It's super, super common. And actually it's very, very
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  common. You'll notice that a lot of kids
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  on the Spectrum will be selectively mute, especially
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  girls, and I've noticed this quite a lot.
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  I can see you all taking off this list right here and like
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  Northern your head and laughing to use. - yeah, it's super
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  So the next one on my list is masking to melt down like what
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  if some asking to melt down and it's basically this if you're
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  masking is a term that you use in autism and it's common with
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  everybody and autism but more so, common in females on the
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  autism spectrum where they will try and put on a front.
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  A Persona like, hey, I'll confident person.
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  I'm going to talk to people in school.
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  I want to go to school and all the stuff but it's exhausting
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  because they're masking. They're putting on a Persona
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  like a almost like they're acting to be some A else to fit
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  into social norms, right. And by doing that, they kind of
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  go to school all day. Don't want stuff.
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  Masking the grade, a student super awesome, then it come
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  home. And it's just like, you know,
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  meltdown mode. Back, throws down goes up to the
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  room has a crazy meltdown or, you know, your daughter comes
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  home from school, a you come home from school, if you're a
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  female and, you know, you've had a full day of masking and then
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  you go to the fridge, to get a chocolate sauce out, because you
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  going to be some polar ice cream with chocolate sauce, super dope
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  MV. So, I have a vegan version
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  Bridge stood up, and then there's no chocolate sauce that
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  flips, the lid bang on tables flying.
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  There's loads of stuff going on and it's called masking to melt
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  down because you've kept it up all day to be, you know, all the
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  masking all day and then at the end of the day, you kind of come
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  home. And so having to mask causes
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  meltdowns. So you'll definitely see this
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  type of behavior. And at mums, dads, you've got to
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  take this video as a like, if you understand exactly I'm
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  talking about right now. I feel it.
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  Okay. So the last thing here is, Shy
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  and quiet. Now, typically girls on the
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  autism spectrum are typically shy and quiet people, the quite
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  well, you know, well Reserve they're not loud and obnoxious,
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  you know, the quite shy quite reserved, you know, as typical
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  people, you know, they're quite just into their thing and they
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  do their own thing. So, this is a common
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  characteristic that is sometimes, missed out because
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  people don't really think, oh, just because they're shy,
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  although, quiet means that they're on the Spectrum, but if
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  you attach that to the other, like, six things I pointed out
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  then, compiles quite the list. Wouldn't you say?
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  That was the list. Now.
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