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Joey Just Found Out That He Has A Sibling And he Doesnt know If He Should Go Searching For Them · The Erica Show

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  Now backs to the Erica Show on G one oh five Erica and Shrever,
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  and we have Joey on the phone, who needs some help today. Hey
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  Joey, what happened? Well? I just found out this weekend that my
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  dad told me that I might have a sibling that is a few years older
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  than me from a relationship he had prior to being with my mom. Oh,
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  did he just find did he just find out about this? Yeah?
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  I just found out about this. I'm in my twenties and like, I've
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  never done twenty three in me, but I feel like I need to do
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  it now. But did your dad just find out or did he know?
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  I don't know. I have no idea. He didn't give me any contexts
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  to the conversation. So you're I heard you say twenty three in me.
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  You haven't done that, so you might do it. Is there any good
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  that can come from finding a long lost sibling? Or are you opening up
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  a can of worms? I mean it's a sibling, so I'd be okay
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  with finding out about it, But at the same time, I have resement
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  towards my dad. Well it was before you know you, I will say,
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  I have a close girlfriend that discovered that she had a different father.
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  The dad that she thought was her dad was not a real dad, and
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  she had a whole family of siblings. She did reach out, and she's
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  very thankful she did, because she learned a lot about herself and met people
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  that she really likes. Now, it's just that she spent you know,
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  thirty plus years not knowing them, and so now she's playing catch up.
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  Yeah, I'd be okay with the new sibling. You know, it's not
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  their fault. They didn't know about the year and I didn't know about them
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  unless they're looking for money. And if they're looking for money, I'm broke,
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  so that won't help. All right, Well, let's put it out
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  there. Keep listening. We'll ask everybody listening what they think you should do.
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  And I'm sure this has happened to other people listening too, so maybe
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  they have some personal insight. Nine one, nine eight six soho one oh
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  five one? Call or text? How do you think he should handle the
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  fact that he has maybe an they're sibling out there? Should he try to
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  track them down? Or it's like, hey, stay out of it.
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  Do you want to vive? It's Erica and Trevor Joey has reached out.
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  He just found out this past weekend. His dad told him that he has
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  another sibling, which is what eight years younger or older, a few years
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  older than him, and he has no idea what to do. He's like,
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  should I reach out? Do I do a DNA test? Like?
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  What happens here? Yeah? Nine nine eight six one five one. Natasha's
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  on the phone. What happened? So something like this happened to my family
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  about three years ago. It was on Christmas Day and we actually found out
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  through ancestry dot com that I have a half sister who'sbout ten years younger than
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  I am. Wait, was it mom or dad that you're like, wait
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  a minute, who didn't tell us about this other person? It was my
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  dad. He didn't even know that she existed. We just happened to be
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  on there looking at the updated information and he was like, Hey, this
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  says I have another daughter. And we were like, no, that's not
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  whatever, dad, And then we looked and we were like, oh my
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  god, we have a half sister. Are your parents still together? No,
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  they divorced. Okay, because that's an that'll be a whole different way.
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  But if it was like somebody that was ten years younger. Was this
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  before your mom came into the picture or no, No, she knew it
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  was a neighbor of ours and she knew the woman like they weren't divorced yet.
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  Oh and that's what caused the divorce. I mean there was probably a
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  lot of things. But yeah, did you reach out to your siblings?
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  We did. We actually are really close with her now. She'd come up
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  for Christmas. We had plans to go down there. It worked out.
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  It worked out really well. Nine one, nine eight six. So one
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  oh five one. What would you do if you found out, as a
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  grown adult that you have another sibling? It sounds like it worked out in
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  this situation. Do you know it's Erica and Trevor. What would you do
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  if you found out that you have another sibling and you're an adult Joey finding
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  out this weekend by his dad who also didn't know there's another kid involved.
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  Yeah, so would you try to reach out and find this long lost sibling
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  or leave it leave it be justin What do you think? I think he
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  should just like leave it alone and let it be really like move on,
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  move on like it never happened. But what if they're kind of like inseparable
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  future friends, and that I would have to know. I would have to
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  be like, all right, you're living your life, you've got everything organized,
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  you got your family, you got your friends already. That could just
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  like ruin the whole your whole life,